Invincible You with Dr. Alex Avila

ARE YOU THE TRADITIONALIST? FINDING AND KEEPING LOVE THE OLD-FASHIONED WAY AS AN ESTJ (TRADITIONALIST)

ARE YOU THE DUTIFUL HOST? HOW TO FIND AND KEEP YOUR LIFE-LONG LOVE PARTNER AS AN ESFJ (DUTIFUL HOST)

Do you yearn for a love that’s joyful, socially connected, and filled with shared experiences—one where you feel appreciated for the warmth, effort, and devotion you bring? If so, you may be the Dutiful Host LoveType (ESFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the gracious, relationship-focused partner who thrives on bringing people together and making them feel cared for. On our Love University podcast, we dove into the romantic strengths and challenges of the Dutiful Host—one of the most generous and loving personality types from my book LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we uncovered:

As a Dutiful Host, you radiate friendliness, loyalty, and an almost unmatched desire to please and serve the people you love. You’re the one who remembers birthdays, plans special dinners, and makes everyone feel welcome. Your ideal relationship is one where emotional connection, shared traditions, and active involvement in each other’s lives are front and center. You often go the extra mile to ensure harmony—offering affection, support, and thoughtful gestures to keep love alive and thriving.

Yet, your strong focus on others’ needs can sometimes leave you feeling overlooked or taken for granted. When you can’t take it any longer, you may strongly express your deeper emotional concerns, which may result in conflicts or arguments. The good news is that with the right partner—someone who values your giving heart and reciprocates your care—you can build a lifelong relationship that’s as emotionally rich as it is socially vibrant.

To help you attract and sustain this kind of enduring love, keep these pointers in mind:

• Choose a Partner Who Values Tradition and Togetherness: You thrive in relationships where family, loyalty, and shared rituals matter. Look for someone who appreciates your efforts and enjoys being part of your social world.
• Beware of People-Pleasing Traps: Sometimes you may say “yes” when you mean “no.” Practice setting gentle boundaries—it will strengthen both your self-respect and your relationship.
• Celebrate Your Role as a Connector: Whether you're hosting a dinner party or supporting your partner through tough times, your gift for connection is a powerful love language. Just remember: love flows best when it flows both ways.

Ultimately, your path to romantic fulfillment lies in embracing your extraordinary capacity for warmth and connection—while making space for your own emotional truth. When you find someone who honors your loyalty and shares your joy in togetherness, love becomes not just a beautiful experience—but a lifelong celebration. With that kind of partnership, you

won’t just host love—you’ll live in it.

ARE YOU THE ADMINISTRATOR? HOW TO FIND AND BUILD A STABLE AND HAPPY MARRIAGE WITH THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AS AN ISTJ (ADMINISTRATOR)

Do you long for a love that’s grounded, reliable, and built on mutual respect—one that thrives on shared responsibilities, long-term vision, and practical support? If so, you may be the Administrator LoveType (ISTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the steady, dependable planner who values duty, loyalty, and a well-ordered life. On our Love University podcast, we explored the essential relationship strengths and romantic needs of the Administrator—one of the most grounded and responsible love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:

As an Administrator, you bring a strong sense of purpose and integrity to your relationships. You are the builder of love’s foundation—someone who creates trust by doing what you say, showing up consistently, and working hard for the people you care about. You thrive in partnerships that honor tradition, shared goals, and clear expectations. For you, love is a well-structured home built with mutual respect, consistent effort, and a deep commitment to a shared future.

However, your strong sense of duty can sometimes make romance feel like just another task on the to-do list. You may find it hard to relax emotionally or express affection spontaneously. Fortunately, your partner will come to see your care in your actions—how you protect, provide, and plan for the future. With time and trust, your affection blossoms in deeply meaningful ways.

To attract and maintain a strong, lasting love, consider these practical tips:

• Prioritize Emotional Presence: Even though you're more comfortable with logistics than emotions, try to be present emotionally. A listening ear or a reassuring word can go a long way in connecting with your partner on a deeper level.
• Look for a Partner Who Respects Structure: You flourish with someone who values routines, shared responsibilities, and long-term planning. Together, you can build a life of peace, purpose, and partnership.
• Make Space for Playfulness: Love doesn’t always have to follow a plan. Leave room for surprise, spontaneity, and affection beyond your comfort zone. It can recharge your relationship and deepen emotional intimacy.
• Recognize Your Love Language: You show love through acts of service, protection, and reliability. Helping your partner understand this—and learning theirs—can help both of you feel more seen and appreciated.

Ultimately, the key to a fulfilling relationship as an Administrator is honoring your gift for commitment while learning to connect emotionally in ways that may not come naturally. When you find a partner who values your stability and depth—and who encourages your emotional expression—you’ll discover that love is not only built, but also deeply felt. Together, you’ll construct a partnership that’s enduring, loving, and unshakably real

ARE YOU THE CARETAKER? HOW TO FIND YOUR LIFE PARTNER AND BUILD YOUR COSY HOME AS AN ISFJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you dream of a love that feels warm, secure, and deeply caring—one that’s rooted in loyalty, kindness, and the quiet joys of everyday life? If so, you may be the Caretaker LoveType (ISFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test), the devoted nurturer who cherishes emotional intimacy and harmonious relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the distinctive romantic needs and strengths of the Caretaker—one of the most caring love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here's what we discovered:

As a Caretaker, you approach life with a generous heart, exceptional empathy, and strong devotion, making you a compassionate and dependable partner. You thrive in relationships that offer emotional closeness, stability, and a shared appreciation for cozy routines. For you, love means building a sanctuary—a warm, comforting home filled with thoughtful gestures, heartfelt conversations, and small acts of kindness that deepen bonds over time. Whether preparing a favorite meal, remembering special occasions, or creating welcoming traditions, you find immense joy in giving love through steady and practical care.

However, your giving nature may sometimes lead you to put your own needs last, causing you to feel emotionally drained or underappreciated. Fortunately, your innate sensitivity often help you gently communicate your needs, restoring balance and nurturing mutual respect. Your ability to tune into your partner’s emotional landscape and offer unwavering support creates lasting bonds of trust and affection.

To attract and cultivate your ideal partnership, consider these helpful pointers:

• Express Your Needs Clearly: Because you naturally focus on others’ happiness, you might downplay your own emotional desires. Openly sharing your feelings and needs helps your partner recognize how best to care for you in return, creating a balanced and fulfilling relationship.
• Find a Partner Who Appreciates Stability: Seek someone who values consistency, loyalty, and heartfelt connection as much as you do. Together, you'll create a harmonious home that honors both your emotional depth and shared values.
• Balance Giving and Receiving: Though giving nurtures your soul, it's equally important to graciously accept love, appreciation, and support from your partner. Learning to comfortably receive strengthens intimacy and mutual understanding.
• Honor Your Quiet Strength: Celebrate your natural talents—such as organizing, empathizing, and quietly supporting—without feeling pressure to become someone else. Your gentle strength is deeply attractive to partners who seek genuine, lasting love.

Ultimately, the key to finding lasting happiness as a Caretaker is recognizing your remarkable capacity for nurturing love, while ensuring that your own emotional well-being is also prioritized. When you build your cozy home with someone who honors your warmth and devotion, you'll experience the quiet joy and deep connection you've always desired. With the right partner, you'll find that love isn’t merely about caring for each other—it's about feeling equally cherished, supported, and at home together.

 

INVINCIBLE YOU: FOCUS, TRANSFORM, AND MANIFEST YOUR GREATEST LIFE

Do you ever sense that you’re moving fast yet, somehow, standing still?  You’re busy but you’re not making progress in your important goals—finances, career, relationships, health, or happiness. On our latest Love University Podcast, we explored that turning-point moment when scattered effort condenses into laser focus, self-doubt thins out, and your boldest vision starts taking physical form. Here’s what we learned:

Direct Your Spirit Flow: Master the Energy Within

Most of us leak power in a hundred ways—notifications, half-finished projects, stray worries. Energy diffused is energy diminished. When you choose one meaningful target and give it your undivided attention, everything changes: tasks line up, distractions fall away, and progress compounds. Think of sunlight: it’s pleasant when spread across a porch, but astonishing when it’s focused through a lens strong enough to weld steel. Your attention is that lens.

Transform, Don’t Erase, Yourself

Real change isn’t a demolition job; it’s a patient revelation of what you have inside you. The great artist Michelangelo said the statue already lived inside the marble—his task was to remove what didn’t belong. In the same way, your confidence, creativity, and resolve are already present. Strip away outdated labels, inherited fears, and second-hand expectations, and your genuine strengths stand in full power. Transformation is less about becoming someone new and more about allowing the best of you to step forward.

Materialize Your Desires Through Perfect Conception

Invention always begins as a clear imagination. Visionaries from Beyoncé to Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble dating app) saw vivid mental movies of their future long before anyone else believed in them. They didn’t wish vaguely for success; they rehearsed every detail until the outcome felt inevitable. When your picture of the future sharpens into a high definition, resources and opportunities organize themselves around that certainty.

If you’re ready to shift from hoping to happening, practice these four essential keys:

• Keep a Daily Time of Focus
  Reserve an uninterrupted slice of time—no alerts, no multitasking—to clear your mind and advance your most important objective. Meditate, think, journal, exercise, engage in a spiritual practice, plan your next step. It’s true that momentum loves consistency. When you focus on what truly matters, your energy and motivation mutlipy.
• Eliminate the Nonessential
  Identify one commitment, habit, or belief that drains your energy without bringing you closer to your goal. Now, whatever it is, stop doing it; eliminate what is not moving you toward your dreams. Each distraction and nongoal you let go of gives you strength and encouragement to keep pushing for your true aims.
• Draft a Vision Script
  Write a one-page snapshot of your ideal day.  Imagine that you wake up to work that excites you, relationships that nourish you, and activities that energize you. Study your script and visualize your brilliant future—morning, noon, and night—until it feels real to you. It will be.
• Act in Alignment to Your Dream
  Take one step—however small—that matches your script: Send the proposal, enroll in the course, introduce yourself to a future collaborator or prospective soul mate. Action signals to the mind that your vision is underway.

Remember, the life you want isn’t waiting somewhere outside you; it’s pressing from within, eager to emerge. When you direct your spirit flow, you hold a vivid vision that feels familiar, and you transform potential into power.

Let today be the day that you close the gap between knowing and doing. Aim your attention like a beam, bring your authentic strengths to center stage, and watch the world rearrange itself around a picture you have created of your future. Above all, keep loving yourself, others, and a Higher Nature—when love fuels focus, the results are limitless.

AWAKEN YOUR LION’S ROAR: UNLEASH YOUR HIDDEN POWER

Have you ever heard an inner voice whispering you were a lion and meant for something greater? If you’re not where you want to be in life, then it’s time for a change; you need to tap into your hidden lion’s roar—your self-love, confidence, and talents.

On our latest episode of Love University, we explored the instant of awakening—that split-second when you suddenly realize the life you’re living is too small for you—you’re not fulfilling your true potential. Our story begins with a lion cub who is raised among sheep. Just like other sheep, he grazed, was startled at shadows, and obediently followed the flock—until one day a stream mirrored back amber-gold eyes and the first hint of a mane. A roar he had never heard before burst from his throat, and in that moment he realized he wasn’t a sheep, but a powerful lion, the King of the Jungle.

How about you? Perhaps, you have experienced a similar jolt of understanding: a stubborn dream that won’t stay quiet, a Sunday night restlessness, a flash of unfulfilled desire when you see someone succeed by thinking big. You hear a faint roar of power and need, and you ask yourself, “Is it coming from outside, from somewhere else, or is it inside me?” Yes, it is inside you.   

Following your roar, your inner authentic power, means tapping into your immortal capital—the reservoir of talent, curiosity, resilience, and intuition lying unused in your mental vault. Chances are, you have let this fortune sit idle, convinced you need outside permission, more resources or credentials. In your own life,  think about the novel still unwritten, the venture unlaunched, the kindness unsaid—each one representing a stack of coins unused; greatness unfulfilled. In reality, your mental vault is unlocked. You can access your inner potential—all you have to do is step inside and gather your treasure—gifts, talents, and wisdom.  

Consider how Oprah Winfrey lost her first high-profile news role, and Steve Jobs, was ousted from Apple, yet both of them turned rejection into reinvention because they interpreted restlessness as a call, not a curse. If you feel a similar tension, take it as proof that you’re being summoned to evolve and accomplish something meaningful and powerful with your life.

Turning that calling into momentum requires the following steps:

• Catch the voice. Notice moments when you feel vividly alive or painfully confined—decide to increase the moments of empowerment and decrease those activities that leave you feeling tired, down, or frustrated.
• Withdraw a coin of immortal capital within 24 hours. Do something that fills your soul: Sketch, pitch, rehearse, research, help, share, communicate, exercise, pray, or meditate.  Always remember that even small actions remove doubt and increase your resilience and inner power.
• Treat temporary discomfort as a guide, not something to avoid.  There will be some “growing pains” when you heed your inner roar—when you start that new relationship or job; travel or make a lifestyle change; expand your horizons. But the momentary discomfort is like when you first lift weights—the sensation of soreness means your muscles are growing and you are getting stronger. In the same way, stretching out of your comfort zone will eventually bring you to the place of lionhood—self-mastery and confidence.

Here’s the truth: Once a lion or lioness discovers their roar, grazing quietly like a timid sheep will never satisfy them again. Your roar is both a warning and a promise. It is a warning that you can no longer live like a sheep; you must claim your true power, and you can—that is the promise. It’s your time now, let your lion roar and you will transform yourself and the world.

ARE YOU THE INNOVATOR? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND ROCK THE WORLD AS AN ENTP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you crave a love that fuses dazzling ideas, playful debate, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Innovator LoveType (ENTP on the Myers‑Briggs personality test)—the quick‑witted explorer who thrives on possibility, originality, and meaningful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we dove into the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the Innovator—one of the most dynamic love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:

As an Innovator, you sprint through life with a curious intellect and irrepressible sense of adventure, making you a stimulating and magnetic partner. You flourish in relationships that invite spirited discussions, blue‑sky brainstorming, and the freedom to experiment together. For you, love is a grand laboratory where two imaginative minds can hatch bold schemes, celebrate every breakthrough, and deepen trust through candid communication and shared laughter. From dreaming up great business ideas to pivoting when a project fizzles, you’re always ready to dive head‑first with your partner into the next big venture as you build an empire together.

Yet, in your rush to chase the next big idea, you may sometimes overlook subtle emotional signals—both yours and your partner’s. Fortunately, that same inventive energy often makes you exceptionally encouraging, resourceful, and inspiring. Your knack for spotting hidden potential and reframing obstacles as opportunities (optimism) can be priceless in any partnership.

If you’re searching for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

• Spark Mutual Curiosity: Invite your partner into your world of “what if?” by tossing out fresh concepts—designing an app, learning a language, or mapping a bold travel route—to build excitement and intellectual curiosity.
  • Listen Between the Lines: Your talent for lively debate is legendary, but pause now and then to tune in to the feelings beneath the words. Empathic listening reassures your partner that you value their heart, not just their ideas.
  • Prototype Together: You’re at your best when you co‑create—whether it’s launching a side hustle, remodeling a room, or planning a cause‑driven event. Tackling projects side by side knits your bond and channels your innovation into shared victories.
  • Ground Genius with Warmth: While your mind races ahead, remember the power of a steady emotional foundation. Offer clear affection, follow through on promises, and show your partner they’re cherished beyond the brainstorm.

Let your partner glimpse the softer layers beneath your confident banter. Although it’s easy for Innovators to stay in the realm of theory, sharing your vulnerable emotions can transform bright sparks into lasting warmth. By pairing your inventive spirit with genuine sensitivity, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both electrifying and nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship marries creativity with authentic closeness. When you share your visionary spark with someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of exhilarating experiments, heartfelt camaraderie, and world‑rocking impact. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love is the ultimate innovation—culminating in a boundless source of mutual growth and joy.

 

ARE YOU THE GENERAL? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND BUILD AN EMPIRE AS AN ENTJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you desire a love that blends strategic drive, bold vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the General LoveType (ENTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the decisive leader who thrives on challenges, big goals, and purposeful relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the General—one of the most powerful love personality styles from my classic LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we learned:

As a General, you approach life with a confident intellect and proactive mindset, making you a strong and compelling partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to brainstorm creative solutions, set audacious objectives, and champion each other’s dreams. For you, love is about forging a dynamic alliance, celebrating every success along the way, and cultivating mutual respect through honest communication and shared ambition.

In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in your drive to achieve, which can lead you to miss important emotional subtleties—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same determination often makes you exceptionally supportive, visionary, and inspiring. Your capacity to see potential in both yourself and your loved one can be a priceless asset in any partnership.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

• Leverage Your Leadership: Your gift for motivation and organization is one of your biggest strengths—don’t hesitate to involve your partner in the strategic process. By crafting goals together, you build unity and show that you value their perspective.
  • Practice Mindful Empathy: You’re direct and solution-focused, but remember to pause at times and genuinely hear how your partner feels. By showing care for their emotional experience, you foster greater trust and understanding.
  • Cultivate Shared Ambitions: You’re at your best when you can collaborate on exciting projects or tackle new challenges as a team. Whether it’s launching a business, planning an epic travel adventure, or investing in mutual learning, striving side by side fortifies your connection and your achievements.
  • Balance Drive with Warmth: While you flourish in goal-oriented environments, you also need a tender emotional bedrock. Be transparent in your affections, and let your partner know you value them as more than just a teammate in your pursuits.

Remember to let your partner see your vulnerable side and share the feelings that often lie beneath your confident exterior. Although it’s easy for Generals to stay focused on action and progress, opening your heart to emotional truths can lead to a deeper and more rewarding connection. By pairing your passion for achievement with authentic emotional presence, you’ll create a love that’s as powerful as it is nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that harmonizes ambition with genuine closeness. When you extend your leadership and vision to someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of impactful collaborations, heartfelt companionship, and ongoing success. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be an extraordinary partnership—and a lasting source of mutual growth and happiness.

ARE YOU THE EXPERT? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND SEXY MIND AS AN INTJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you desire a love that blends intellectual synergy, strategic vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Expert LoveType (INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the forward-thinking strategist who thrives on knowledge, self-improvement, and purposeful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Expert and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:

As an Expert, you approach life with a keen analytical mind and an unquenchable thirst for understanding, making you a focused and perceptive partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to delve into stimulating topics, share well-reasoned perspectives, and collaborate on future goals. For you, love is about building a shared vision, celebrating each milestone of the journey, and creating a deep bond through honest dialogue and mutual respect.

In relationships, you may sometimes get absorbed in your own thoughts and overlook important emotional cues—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same dedication to thinking things through often makes you exceptionally loyal, attentive, and supportive. Your ability to plan for the future, notice small details, and offer insightful observations can be a wonderful asset to any partnership.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

• Honor Your Vision: Your ability to see the big picture and chart a course toward meaningful objectives is one of your greatest strengths—don’t hesitate to share it. By inviting your partner into your planning process, you create a sense of teamwork and inspire mutual trust.
• Practice Empathetic Listening: You’re naturally focused on logic and problem-solving, but remember to slow down and truly hear your partner’s feelings. By showing genuine interest in their emotional world, you foster deeper understanding and respect.
• Nurture Shared Goals: You’re at your best when you can pursue growth and learning together with your partner. Whether it’s studying a topic of mutual interest or taking on a challenging project, dedicating time to common pursuits strengthens your intellectual and emotional bond.
• Balance Logic with Warmth: While you thrive on analysis, you also need a loving emotional foundation. Be open with your affections, and reassure your mate that you’re emotionally available despite your more reserved nature.

Remember to share your inner feelings and let your partner see the more vulnerable facets of who you are. Although it can be easy for Experts to remain in the realm of logic, acknowledging and communicating your emotional truths can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. By pairing your visionary mindset with genuine warmth, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both stimulating and comforting.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines intellectual exploration with true emotional closeness. When you offer your insights to someone who values your individuality, you can build a life of deep conversations, purposeful collaboration, and meaningful partnership. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a profound journey and sustaining source of lifelong growth.

 

ARE YOU THE PERFORMER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND A LIFETIME OF FUN AS AN ESFP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you desire a love that blends excitement, spontaneity, and heartfelt connection? If so, you might be the Performer LoveType (ESFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the life of the party who thrives on joy, interaction, and shared adventures. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Performer and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:

As a Performer, you approach life with a vibrant enthusiasm and zest for new experiences, making you a magnetic and lively partner. You shine in relationships that allow you to express your warmth, creativity, and desire for fun. For you, love is about living in the moment, celebrating every step of the journey, and nurturing a strong emotional bond through shared laughter and connection.

In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in the excitement of the present, which can lead you to overlook deeper emotional needs—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same energy is what makes you exceptionally supportive, affectionate, and attentive. Your ability to lift your partner’s spirits with your natural charm can be a wonderful asset to any relationship.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

• Embrace Your Vibrancy: Your playful and adventurous spirit is one of your greatest gifts—don’t be afraid to let it shine. Whether it’s planning a surprise weekend getaway or organizing a fun gathering, your enthusiasm can be contagious and keep your love life fresh.
• Listen as Much as You Speak: You’re naturally talkative and expressive, but remember to slow down and truly hear what your partner is saying. By practicing active listening, you create space for deeper emotional understanding and mutual respect.
• Create Meaningful Memories: You’re at your best when you’re sharing delightful, spontaneous experiences with the person you love. Whether it’s trying a new hobby together or hosting game nights, investing in quality time builds stronger emotional bonds.
• Balance Spontaneity with Stability: While you thrive on excitement, you also need a consistent emotional foundation. Seek a partner who can match your energy yet provide the steadiness and reassurance that helps you feel good in the long run.

Remember to acknowledge your deeper feelings and communicate them with your partner. Although it’s easy for Performers to focus on the thrills of the moment, being open about your needs and emotions can lead to a richer and more authentic connection. By pairing your fun-loving nature with honest communication, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both exhilarating and nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines excitement with genuine emotional depth. When you share your sunny outlook with someone who values and respects your individuality, you can build a life of joyful companionship, heartfelt closeness, and endless fun. With the right partner by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a great adventure and deep source of lasting happiness.