Invincible You with Dr. Alex Avila

ARE YOU THE PERFORMER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND A LIFETIME OF FUN AS AN ESFP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you desire a love that blends excitement, spontaneity, and heartfelt connection? If so, you might be the Performer LoveType (ESFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the life of the party who thrives on joy, interaction, and shared adventures. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Performer and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:

As a Performer, you approach life with a vibrant enthusiasm and zest for new experiences, making you a magnetic and lively partner. You shine in relationships that allow you to express your warmth, creativity, and desire for fun. For you, love is about living in the moment, celebrating every step of the journey, and nurturing a strong emotional bond through shared laughter and connection.

In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in the excitement of the present, which can lead you to overlook deeper emotional needs—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same energy is what makes you exceptionally supportive, affectionate, and attentive. Your ability to lift your partner’s spirits with your natural charm can be a wonderful asset to any relationship.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

• Embrace Your Vibrancy: Your playful and adventurous spirit is one of your greatest gifts—don’t be afraid to let it shine. Whether it’s planning a surprise weekend getaway or organizing a fun gathering, your enthusiasm can be contagious and keep your love life fresh.
• Listen as Much as You Speak: You’re naturally talkative and expressive, but remember to slow down and truly hear what your partner is saying. By practicing active listening, you create space for deeper emotional understanding and mutual respect.
• Create Meaningful Memories: You’re at your best when you’re sharing delightful, spontaneous experiences with the person you love. Whether it’s trying a new hobby together or hosting game nights, investing in quality time builds stronger emotional bonds.
• Balance Spontaneity with Stability: While you thrive on excitement, you also need a consistent emotional foundation. Seek a partner who can match your energy yet provide the steadiness and reassurance that helps you feel good in the long run.

Remember to acknowledge your deeper feelings and communicate them with your partner. Although it’s easy for Performers to focus on the thrills of the moment, being open about your needs and emotions can lead to a richer and more authentic connection. By pairing your fun-loving nature with honest communication, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both exhilarating and nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines excitement with genuine emotional depth. When you share your sunny outlook with someone who values and respects your individuality, you can build a life of joyful companionship, heartfelt closeness, and endless fun. With the right partner by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a great adventure and deep source of lasting happiness.

THE BIG BALLER WHO FOUND HIS HEART, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, DANIEL GUTIERREZ, THE RADICAL MINDFULNESS MASTER

Daniel Gutierrez was once at the top of his game in the business world—an advisor to the Obama Administration, a big-time speaker, and a highly paid consultant to major organizations. But then he left it all behind to embark on a spiritual journey toward self-love. Now a mindfulness master (danielgutierrez.com) and bestselling author (Radical Mindfulness), he leads life-changing retreats to Peru, teaching Radical Mindfulness and the power of living and loving fully in the present.

A Life-Changing Encounter with Wachuma

In his search for enlightenment, Daniel took San Pedro (Wachuma), a plant medicine known for opening the heart and deepening wisdom. Unlike the intense night visions of Ayahuasca, Wachuma is taken during the day, bringing clarity and connection to nature. During the experience, he saw a powerful condor (a large bird of prey)—a sign to trust his inner wisdom and embrace his path as a teacher and healer.

A Mother’s Final Words of Freedom

During his mother’s dying moments, Daniel experienced the sacred energy of Palo Santo wood. He saw two lights and felt her presence. Her last words to him: “You were here when I needed you. I release you to the world.” With that blessing, he stepped fully into his mission of love and mindfulness.

Radical Mindfulness: The Art of Being Fully Present

Mindfulness rewires the brain—lowering fear, increasing memory and planning, and boosting compassion by 23%, while reducing aggression by 57%. Daniel’s Six-Step Radical Mindfulness Framework helps people stay present:

1. Focus on the present (breath, senses).
2. Direct thoughts to the moment.
3. Ask: Am I okay right now?
4. Question fear: Is this real?
5. Assess: Am I moving toward or away from my goal?
6. Take action: Shift energy through movement.

Plant Medicine: Nature’s Teachers and Healers

Daniel learned that Indigenous wisdom sees plants as living beings (Anima). If a plant loves you, it heals you. This is a sacred exchange—plants willingly offer their spirit when treated with gratitude and respect.

Spiritual Wisdom From the Jungle

Here are some of Daniel’s Nuggets of Natural Higher Knowledge:

• Healing isn’t the goal—love is. When you love, healing happens.
• Don’t wait for the storm to pass—dance in the rain.
• The dangers of the jungle aren’t there just to kill, but to protect (like in life, what you fear may be guarding something valuable).
• Unplug from technology to reconnect with yourself.
• Guilt and sadness come from burdening yourself with self-harming expectations—but Radical Mindfulness teaches acceptance and love.

Finding Peace in Sacred Lands

Daniel now runs the Catalina Retreat Center (catalinaretreatcenterperu.com), named after his beloved departed mother. He leads earnest seekers on transformational journeys to Peru, including spiritually evolved places such as Cusco and Machu Picchu in the Andes.  

A New Definition of Success

Once a "big baller" in the business world, Daniel discovered that true success isn’t about money or power. It’s about stillness, presence, and love.

On Love University, we invite you to embrace the powerful lesson inspired by Daniel’s journey to peace and self-acceptance: Live more. Love more. Be more. When you do this, the world opens its arms to you, and your joy will be unending.

Listen to the full episode with Daniel Gutierrez on Love University Podcast. Take the first step toward a life of peace and purpose—because true success begins within.

YOUR INVINCIBLE YEAR, PART TWO: 8 KEYS TO UNSTOPABBLE SUCCESS AND UNLIMITED JOY

Have you ever felt like success, love, or happiness was just out of your reach? Do you feel like there’s something bigger waiting for you, but you’re not sure how to grasp it? On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—and achieve your dreams—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed.

Here are 8 powerful ways to unlock your unstoppable success in 2025:

1. The Thing You Seek Is Seeking You
   What if your biggest desires—love, success, purpose—are also looking for you? Consider Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. With only $5,000, she noticed a problem (uncomfortable shapewear) and realized the solution was calling her just as much as she was searching for it. The same happened with Tim Berners-Lee, who invented the World Wide Web—his vision for a connected world was something humanity was already yearning for.
2. The Dark Room: Desire Versus Resignation
   Imagine standing in a pitch-black room filled with everything you need, but you can’t see it. You fumble for a light switch but come up empty. Frustrated, you think, maybe I should just accept the darkness. Then a thought hits you: What if the switch isn’t on the wall? You feel around, find a button on the floor, press it—and suddenly, light floods the room.  You see everything you need.
3. Do You Want It as Much as a Dying Person Wants Life?
   True desire is intense. Imagine someone fighting to survive—they don’t hesitate, doubt, or give up. They fight with everything they have. That’s the level of passion you need for your goals.
4. Be the Thing You Long For
   If you want love, be loving. If you want success, act as if you’re already successful. The moment you embody what you seek, the world starts reflecting it back to you.
5. Lift Your Mind Above Effort and Resistance
   Many people struggle because they fight against life instead of flowing with it. Imagine trying to swim upstream—it’s exhausting and gets you nowhere. Now, picture letting go and allowing the current to carry you. When you do this, love, happiness, and success will surely flow to you.
6. Attract High-Value Relationships
   Your relationships are a direct reflection of your energy. If you radiate confidence, kindness, and self-worth, you’ll attract people who have the same qualities. Now your relationships become your golden treasure.
7. Search for Worthier Prizes
   Sometimes, failure is just a redirection to something better. Consider Lady Gaga who was dropped by her first record label after only three months. Devastated, but determined, she refined her artistry and soon became one of the biggest pop stars in the world.
8. Reverse the Desire
   Not every desire is meant for you—and that’s okay. Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is letting go. Holding on to something that isn’t aligned with your true path—whether it’s a relationship, career, or outdated dream—only blocks the right opportunities from finding you. When you release what no longer serves you, you create space for something far greater to take its place.

Remember this: What you seek is also seeking you. Align your energy with your desires, and opportunities will follow. Even when life feels like a Dark Room, keep searching—the light switch is there. Success, love, and happiness require full commitment. Sometimes setbacks are actually redirections toward something better, but you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you.

The moment you fully embrace your worth, act with purpose, and let go of what doesn’t belong to you, you will naturally attract the success, love, and joy that were always meant for you. Here’s to your Invincible Year.

ARE YOU THE SCHOLAR? DO YOU THINK BRAINS ARE SEXY? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND INTELLECTUAL EQUAL AS AN INTP

Do you think brains are sexy, and do you seek an intellectually compatible mate? If so, you may be the Scholar (INTP on the Myers-Briggs test), a knowledge aficionado who loves to learn and values a partner who can keep you thinking. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Scholar and how they can find a love that stimulates both  heart and mind.

The Scholar's Approach to Love:

As a Scholar, you approach relationships with curiosity and a desire for deep understanding. You value meaningful conversations and are drawn to partners who can engage in intellectual debates and share your passion for knowledge. Your analytical nature means you appreciate honesty and directness, often favoring straightforward communication over emotional nuance. This can lead to profound connections with those who appreciate your thoughtful and introspective demeanor.

Challenges in Romantic Relationships:

While your intellectual approach is a strength, it can also present challenges. You may find it difficult to express emotions, leading partners to perceive you as distant or detached. Your preference for logic over emotion might cause you to overlook the emotional needs of your partner, potentially leading to misunderstandings. Additionally, your tendency to become absorbed in your thoughts can make you seem unavailable or uninterested in the relationship.

Finding Your Intellectual Match:

To find a partner who complements your scholarly nature, consider the following:

• Seek Shared Interests: Engage in activities and communities that align with your intellectual passions, such as academic clubs, book discussions, or science forums.
• Prioritize Open Communication: Be transparent about your need for intellectual stimulation and seek a partner who values and reciprocates this need.
• Balance Logic with Emotion: While you thrive on intellectual connection, remember to nurture the emotional aspects of a relationship. Practice expressing your feelings and be attentive to your partner's emotional cues.

By embracing your intellectual strengths and addressing potential challenges, you can build a fulfilling relationship that satisfies your intellect and emotional needs.  Now it’s up to you: Valentine’s Day is almost here. Go out this week and connect with like-minded individuals who match your thirst for knowledge, competence, and wisdom. Who knows, your compatible love partner may be a click or text away.

THE YEAR OF INVINCIBLE YOU: AWAKEN YOUR DREAMS

Have you ever felt like there’s something more waiting for you—something bigger, but just out of reach? Maybe you’ve had moments where you imagined a wonderful career or relationship, a new direction, or a fresh start, but doubts crept in, making it seem unrealistic.

On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed. Here are 7 ways to move toward the life you truly desire in 2025:

 

1. Imagine What You Truly Want—Not Just What You Think You Deserve

Unfortunately, many people dream within their comfort zone—what they think is realistic or possible. When they do this, however, they limit themselves and mute their passion and drive. But, what if you removed the limits? Picture the life you’d love—career, relationships, health—without the "I can't" or "it's not realistic" filters. The second you stop aiming small, the universe starts expanding the possibilities.

2. Plant the Desire Seed: Are You Growing or Neglecting Your Dreams?

Your dreams are like seeds—if you feed them with time, effort, and belief, they grow. But if you let distractions (negative people, doubts, excuses) take over, they dry up. Are you making small daily movements toward your goals, or are you just hoping things will magically happen? Love yourself enough to water the seeds of your desires until they bear the fruits of success.

3. Make Every Action a Win by Keeping Your Vision Strong

Every small step adds up. A painter doesn’t finish a masterpiece overnight, but makes a little progress daily to create something incredible. Are you thinking of a great business idea, fitness goal, or creative project? Stick with it even when progress feels slow. The key isn’t speed—it’s consistently moving toward your goals every single day.

4. Call Every Experience a Success (Even the "Failures")

What if nothing was truly a failure—just a stepping stone? A lost job might push you toward a dream career. A bad relationship might help you find real love. When you label everything as progress, setbacks lose their power over you, and you feel like a winner no matter what.

5. Focus on What You Want Until Your Actions Feel Natural

Have you ever started something that felt like a struggle, but over time, it became second nature? That’s what happens when passion meets consistency. The first steps might feel forced, but stick with it, and suddenly, your effort turns into a natural attraction of what you desire.

6. Every Person is a Golden Link in Your Chain of Good

No connection is random. Some people push you forward, others teach you lessons, and some fade away to make room for who you really need. Trust that the right people will show up at the right time—whether it’s a mentor, friend, romantic partner, or even a stranger who sparks an idea.

7. It’s Never Too Late to Take Back Lost Time

Do you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of time in life? In reality, you haven’t. Some of the world’s most successful people found their passion and achieved their dreams later in life. Vera Wang started designing in her 40s. Stan Lee’s biggest comic book hits came in his 60s. The road wasn’t straight for them, but every detour had a purpose. In the same way, be open to life changes and use them for your ultimate good.

                   It's Time to Step Into Your Invincible Self

This is your year to stop waiting and start believing in something bigger for yourself. Here’s the truth: Your dreams matter, your past doesn’t define you, and every action—big or small—moves you forward.

On our next Love University episode, we will dive even deeper into stepping into your power and creating the life you truly deserve. Until then, dream big, take action, and keep spreading love—because the energy you put out is the energy you attract.

ARE YOU THE GENTLE ARTIST? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND AUTHENTIC NATURE AS AN ISFP

Do you believe that love should be a gentle dance of understanding, emotional connection, and shared appreciation for life’s beauty? If so, you may be the Gentle Artist LoveType (ISFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a compassionate and introspective soul who values nature, animals, art, and the simple yet profound joys of life. On our latest Love University podcast, we delved into the unique qualities of the Gentle Artist and how you can find a love that complements your tender, creative spirit.

As a Gentle Artist, your love for the world around you is reflected in everything you do. Whether it’s through creating art, cherishing the beauty of nature, or forming meaningful connections with children and animals, your heart is deeply attuned to the world’s softer, quieter side. You are flexible and willing to adapt for love, even to the point of moving cross-country if it means being with your soulmate. This openness and gentleness make you an incredible long-term partner, but they also mean you must guard your heart against being taken advantage of by those who might mistake your trust for naivety.

In relationships, you express your love in subtle yet profound ways—through a handmade gift, a quiet moment shared under the stars, or the warmth of your presence when words aren’t needed. You value harmony and emotional connection above all, making you a nurturing and empathetic partner. Yet, your natural reserve can sometimes make it hard for others to fully understand the depth of your feelings, leading to occasional misunderstandings.

To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your creativity and gentle spirit—someone who values authenticity, loves nature as much as you do, and treasures life’s simple yet meaningful moments. A partner who supports your artistic passions and honors your need for introspection will help you flourish. This person will not only cherish your sensitivity but will also inspire you to grow in ways you never imagined.

At the same time, it’s important for you to express your needs openly in a relationship. While you often prefer to let your actions speak for you, sharing your feelings and vulnerabilities will deepen your connection with your partner. Vulnerability, far from being a weakness, is your pathway to true intimacy.

Your ideal relationship as a Gentle Artist is one filled with shared experiences that celebrate life’s beauty—strolling through a quiet forest, creating something meaningful together, or simply enjoying a peaceful evening side by side. With the right partner, you’ll find a love that feels as natural and enduring as the art and beauty you so deeply value.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ISFP lies in embracing your gentle, creative nature while learning to set boundaries and communicate openly. Trust in your ability to connect on a deep emotional level, and seek someone who resonates with your values of authenticity and emotional depth. With the right person, your love will not only be tender but also transformative—a testament to the beauty of two sensitive souls coming together in harmony.

 

The Man With No Shirt, Do the Impossible: Happiness and Love Are Within Your Reach

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life, settling for an “okay” relationship, a decent job, or a predictable routine? On this week’s Love University Podcast, we uncovered the secret to breaking free from mediocrity and stepping into a life of boldness and achievement. As we learned in The Man with No Shirt story, the path to greatness starts with aiming for what seems impossible—and discovering that it’s not only within reach, but essential for your ultimate happiness.

The antidote to feeling stuck is to extend your psychological reach farther than you think possible. Ask yourself, “What would it look like if I became the greatest version of myself—the best partner, parent, creator, or businessperson?” It’s about daring to aim for “insane” goals that others might dismiss as unrealistic. Why? Because even if you fall short, you’ll surpass limits you never thought you could. As we explored on the show, striving for greatness sets a powerful chain reaction in motion: small wins lead to bigger wins, confidence builds, and barriers you once saw as immovable start to dissolve.

In The Man with No Shirt, a desperate young man searches for the happiest person in the world, believing he can gain happiness by wearing that person’s shirt. But the story takes a surprising turn when he learns that the happiest man has no shirt—because happiness isn’t external; it’s already within you. As we discussed on the podcast, this tale reminds us that the key to reaching extraordinary heights is not just about external goals, but about recognizing your own inner potential.

To take charge of your destiny, you must aim for goals that stretch you to the limit. Think about what you really want in life: an incredible career, a love-filled relationship, or an extraordinary lifestyle. Start small—send that email to a mentor, enroll in a course to boost your confidence, or try something new that aligns with your dreams. As we emphasized on the show, focusing on one significant action each day helps eliminate distractions, silence self-doubt, and build unstoppable momentum.

Of course, the journey won’t always be easy. You’ll face obstacles, procrastination, and fear. But as we learned, pushing beyond mental limitations—just like the young man searching for happiness—reveals an unexpected truth: You’re capable of far more than you realize. The moment you stop settling for “okay” and start reaching for the stars is the moment your life begins to transform.

On Love University, we’re here to inspire you to think big, dream bold, and take that first daring step toward the life you deserve. Remember, it’s not about finding someone else’s “shirt” of happiness—it’s about stepping into your own greatness. The impossible isn’t as far away as it seems. When you extend your reach, you’ll realize you were made for much more.

So, what’s your impossible goal? Take a step today, and watch the extraordinary unfold.

ARE YOU THE CRAFTSPERSON? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND MEANING AS AN ISTP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you believe that love should be a partnership built on trust, shared experiences, and practical connection? If so, you might be the Craftsperson LoveType (ISTP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a resourceful and independent individual who values freedom, exploration, and tangible accomplishments in both life and love. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Craftsperson and how you can find fulfilling love and purpose. Here’s what we discovered:

As a Craftsperson, you approach life with a quiet confidence and a knack for problem-solving, making you an intriguing and grounded partner. You thrive in relationships that allow for both independence and mutual respect. For you, love is not about constant emotional intensity or elaborate displays of affection—it’s about steady, meaningful actions and building a life together through shared experiences and practical support.

In relationships, you may not always express your emotions openly, but your actions speak volumes. Whether it’s fixing something that’s broken, planning an exciting outdoor adventure, or simply being a steady presence, you show your love through what you do rather than what you say. This makes you a dependable and down-to-earth partner, but it can also lead to misunderstandings if your emotional depth isn’t fully recognized.

To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your hands-on approach and values your self-sufficiency. You’ll thrive with a partner who respects your need for space and freedom but also inspires you to explore deeper emotional connections. Look for someone who enjoys adventure and discovery as much as you do—someone who can join you in experiencing life to the fullest without holding you back.

At the same time, it’s important to acknowledge your own emotional needs and communicate them with your partner. While you might be naturally reserved, opening up about your feelings can lead to a stronger, more intimate bond. Remember, vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s a bridge to deeper understanding and connection.

As a Craftsperson, your ideal relationship is one where mutual respect and shared interests create a foundation of trust and companionship. Whether you’re building a project together, exploring a new hiking trail, or simply enjoying a quiet evening, the love you seek is grounded in authentic moments and mutual growth.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ISTP lies in balancing your independence with emotional openness. Embrace your adventurous, pragmatic nature, but don’t shy away from vulnerability that can enrich your relationships. By seeking a partner who aligns with your values and supports your journey of exploration and growth, you can create a love that’s not only stable but also endlessly fulfilling.

With the right partner by your side, your love life can become a journey of shared adventure and practical joy—proving that even the most independent hearts can find extraordinary love and purpose.

ARE YOU THE GROWTH TEACHER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND MEANING AS AN ENFJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

ARE YOU THE SOCIAL PHILOSOPHER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND MEANING AS AN ENFP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

By Dr. Alex Avila

Do you believe that love should be a grand adventure filled with endless possibilities? If so, you may be the Social Philosopher LoveType (ENFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test). As an ENFP, you're a passionate, free-spirited individual who thrives on deep connections, exploration, and discovering new perspectives in every aspect of life. You’re an idealist with a deep yearning for meaning, often questioning the world around you and how love fits into the larger picture of existence.

In relationships, you are the type of person who desires more than just romance—you crave emotional depth, intellectual stimulation, and the sense that you're growing together with your partner. You’re always seeking new ideas, perspectives, and experiences, and you want a partner who can keep up with your adventurous spirit and philosophical musings. You're highly empathetic and love engaging in heartfelt, meaningful conversations that delve into the mysteries of life. But while your openness and creativity make you an exciting partner, your idealism can sometimes lead you to expect perfection or overlook potential incompatibilities in a relationship.

If you find the right person who shares your sense of adventure and can match your intellectual curiosity, you can build a love that’s both deeply fulfilling and endlessly transformative. However, be cautious of letting your boundless enthusiasm for potential cloud your judgment. Your imagination may lead you to idealize someone or a relationship to the point of overlooking red flags or staying in a situation that doesn't align with your true desires.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ENFP is embracing both your passionate spirit and your need for authentic connection. Recognize that love, for you, is a journey of mutual growth and discovery. By staying true to your values and seeking a partner who can engage with you on a deep emotional and intellectual level, you'll create a relationship that not only enriches your life but also allows both of you to explore the endless possibilities of love and meaning together.