Invincible You with Dr. Alex Avila

LOVE WARRIOR, PART ONE: HOW TO COMBINE GENTLENESS WITH STRENGTH AND PEACE WITH POWER

In a world of conflict and strife, there is one who stands above. This individual is called the Love Warrior: a person who defuses hostility and brings harmony, peace, and balance into any situation.  On our Love University Podcast, we showed you how to become a Love Warrior in our contentious world—fighting for love, defeating nervousness, and finding victory with peace. On Part One of the Love Warrior Series, you will learn how to develop the powerful Love Warrior trait known as Confident Gentleness—being strong and confident, yet humble and loving. Here’s how you can become Confidently Gentle:

*Spend time with gentle creatures.  Watch YouTube videos, or spend time with (perhaps even own) a gentle creature like the Golden Retriever or Llama. As you observe these special gentle animal beings, visualize absorbing their gentle spirit within yourself.

*Soften your voice.  Become aware of how your voice changes when you are angry or upset. You may have a higher pitch, speak in an angry growl, or have a fast staccato voice. When you see yourself hardening and harshening your speech, make an effort to slow down and speak more softly. Take a deep breath and mentally repeat the words, “Gentle, soft, peaceful.” This will help defuse your anger and calm your mind.

*Be gentle with yourself.  To be gentle with others, you first need to be gentle with yourself. Make sure you take the time to exercise, relax, spend time with loved ones, do your favorite hobbies/activities, and engage in a spiritual/meditative practice. Forgive your past mistakes or blunders. When you do this, you will love yourself more and develop an unshakeable inner confidence.

*Let others win momentary battles.  Instead of fighting so hard with other people over trivial matters, let them win.  Give someone the parking space you normally would fight over, allow the other person to have the last word in the argument.  When you do this, you are not being a pushover or loser. You are winning because you have won without having to fight a battle.  You have taught the other person the value of gentleness and peace of mind. You have your mind on a higher aim:  Trading a life of hostility and fighting for one of peace and love.

You can be a Love Warrior: kind, compassionate, gentle, patient, firm, and confident.  As a Love Warrior, you will respect yourself and others.  You will set firm limits (boundaries) regarding the behavior of others toward you—you won’t let people take advantage of you. At the same time, you will be empathetic and compassionate. You realize that the angry or aggressive person is suffering from their own fiery nature. As a Love Warrior, you are not affected by the negativity of others because you live in a different place. It is called Love without expectation—you stand firm and love others and the world, without expecting anything in return. Now you are invincible. You are the true Love Warrior.

DO THE IMPOSSIBLE: BE A FULL POTENTIAL PERSON AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS

Would you like to be a full potential person?  A full potential person is someone who maximizes their abilities and achieves their dreams.  Maslow called it being self-actualized, being at the peak of your self-development and fully realizing your potential. You can go as far as you want in life by becoming a Full Potential Person—someone who is authentic, powerful, and loving. Here’s what we learned about becoming a Full Potential Person on our recent Podcast:

Follow Your Hara:  In the martial arts, the Hara is the physical point two inches below the navel that is the center of balance, power, and intuition. When you focus on your Hara, you are tapping into your gut instinct, the part of you that knows what is right and true. When you’re faced with a difficult decision, close your eyes, breath deeply, and focus on the point two inches below your navel. Ask the Hara: What should I do?  As your intuition becomes clearer, you will receive the right answer—now follow your gut.

Embrace the Unknown:  When your Hara tells you to do something different, take a risk and do it. Talk to a new person, go to a different place, or try a new look or hobby.  You never know what good will come of a new opportunity, a new opening in the door of life.  When you talk to a new person, you don’t know where the conversation will lead you—maybe you will discover an interesting acquaintance or friend, or perhaps even a great business or romantic partner. Be open to trying new things and you will reap many benefits.

Build your “Zone of Excellence”:   Have you ever been immersed in an activity you love, and you lost track of time and your worries? Everything felt natural and easy. This ultimate mental state is known as the “Zone of Excellence.”  When you’re in the Zone of Excellence, you lose your self-conscious concerns, and you become one with the activity or circumstance you’re experiencing. To develop this Zone, you can begin by building up small moments of excellence; you can break down big goals into smaller tasks that you can accomplish and feel good about.  For example, if you want to start a physical fitness program, you can begin by exercising a brief amount of time, perhaps 15-20 minutes at first. As you feel stronger and gather more momentum, you will gradually increase the time you spend exercising (thirty minutes, one hour).  Soon, you will find yourself in the Zone of Excellence—that marvelous place of mind where you do everything  with authenticity, confidence, and love.

Yes, you can become a Full Potential Person who makes your dreams come true.  All you have to do is follow your Hara,  embrace the unknown, and build your zone of excellence. When you do this, you will flow naturally with the rhythms of life. You will achieve your highest level of being and joy every moment of every day.  

 

CHARISMA POWER: UNLOCK YOUR HIDDEN POTENTIAL TO SHINE IN ANY SOCIAL SITUATION

Would you like to be irresistibly persuasive and appealing to others?  You can develop more charisma—compelling attractiveness and charm—by following the principles we discussed on our recent Love University Podcast. With charisma, you generate confidence, goodwill, and trust. With charisma, you can overcome obstacles and attract the right people and circumstances into your life. Here’s what you need to do.

*Be Authentic.  A charismatic person is genuine and authentic.  Be true to yourself and express your real opinions instead of pretending to be someone you’re not just to impress others. Keep a notebook or pad in which you write down your daily interactions with others. Record the times you felt confident and authentic, and also when you felt insecure and fake.  Then, strive to duplicate those scenarios in which you felt authentic and in control; charming and attractive. Maybe you feel more confident having technological discussions in certain chat rooms. Or, you may feel confident when you’re in religious/spiritual settings with likes-minded people of faith. Strive to reproduce as many confident and authentic moments so you can lock in the mental image of yourself as a powerful and genuine individual.

*Accentuate Your Similarities.  It’s true that we tend to like people who share similar interests, perspectives, values, and goals.  Therefore, when you talk to someone, it’s a good idea to focus on your similarities.  Maybe you both lived in the same city before, went to the same school, or enjoy the same food or hobby. Ask questions and seek to establish conversational common ground. The key to this approach is to be sincere. Don’t pretend to like something just because you want the other person to like you. Genuinely find things that both of you have in common—sports, politics, spirituality/religion, hobbies, world events, values, or life perspective. When you share commonalities in attitudes and preferences with others, you will have a delightful conversation that can blossom into a nice friendship.

*Be generous.  Genuinely charismatic individuals focus on the benefits they can offer to others—how they can help, serve, and give.  Although they give freely, they are also aware of the universal law that the more positivity they put out into the world, the more they will receive in return.  As a blossoming charismatic person, you also understand that generosity is not just about giving money to others. You can also be generous with your time, energy and emotional resources (being an empathetic listener). When you do this, others will appreciate your investment in them. They will tend to reciprocate and offer you something of value in return. However, even if a particular person doesn’t return your generosity, there’s a good likelihood that you will receive an equivalent benefit from someone else. It’s true that the Universe rewards the giver over time.

The good news is that you can be a charismatic person who attracts, persuades, influences, and contributes to the lives of others.  Focus this week on being authentic, accentuating your similarities with others, and being generous. By doing this, you will tap into your natural charm and confidence, and you will be happier, have better relationships, and achieve more success than ever before.  Charisma can be your superpower to help you achieve your dreams and help others achieve theirs. Begin your charisma program today.

UNCOIL YOUR POWER AND JOY WITHIN: SECRETS OF KUNDALANI YOGA WITH SPECIAL GUEST MANDEEP, SPIRITUAL TEACHER

There is a science of mind and body that can transform your life. It is called Yoga.  On Love University podcast, we welcomed beloved Yoga teacher, Mandeep (HOME | Kundalini Collective), as she enlightened us on the benefits and joys of yoga practice. Here is what we learned:

*Yoga offers many benefits. The practice of yoga improves mood, concentration, and decision-making, as well as the immune system, while reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. It can help in weight loss. It can teach trauma victims how to tolerate discomfort and integrate their past experiences into their mind and body. In addition, practicing yoga in a group setting can increase your sense of community, togetherness, and sharing.

*You can reduce your Monkey Mind. In the East, the “Monkey Mind” refers to all of the chattering thoughts you have in your head (“I have to pay bills; I’m late for work”) that prevent you from maintaining peace and relaxation. Fortunately, in yoga, you can practice Mudras (hand/finger movements) that occupy your body while your mind can relax. The good news is that you don’t have to sit still and think of nothing when you practice yoga meditation. You can chant, breathe, stretch, and perform mudras to integrate your mind, body, and spirit.

*Yoga can help you raise your consciousness. In her studio, Mandeep teaches Kundalini Yoga, a way to inner peace and union with the Higher Nature by uncoiling the energy within you.  Kundalini yoga contains many schools of yoga in one teaching, one practice, and expresses Mandeep’s philosophy: “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”  

You can raise your emotional, physical, and spiritual level by incorporating yoga practice into your daily life. By tapping into your inner energy and power, you can calm your Monkey Mind, release tension and fear, and develop a hopeful and optimistic outlook on life. It’s true that yoga can be a great tool for your inner and outer advancement. Remember: The way to union and peace comes from an everyday commitment to understanding and integrating your mind, body, and soul.

 

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HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF AND ACCEPT YOUR GREATNESS

Do you really love yourself in an authentic way? Loving yourself authentically means that you have a deep understanding and appreciation of who you really are.  You accept yourself as you are without excessively judging and criticizing yourself.  For many people, authentic self-love is difficult because they judge themselves harshly and push themselves too hard. The solution is to have balanced self-love, in which you love and forgive yourself, while recognizing your areas of needed improvement.  Here’s how to practice self-love in a healthy and powerful way:

*Write a self-love letter.  Write a letter from the perspective of your future self. Write as if your future self is asking your present self an important question:  Am I living my most authentic, healthy, and love-filled life right now? Perhaps, you’re not living healthily right now—eating the wrong foods, indulging in bad habits.  Maybe, you’re not living an authentic and loving life because you’re in an incompatible relationship or career. If that’s the case, then you need to change course right now so your future self will benefit from your current decisions: practice healthy habits, choose the right career or relationship, and develop your inner and outer self.

*Practice radical self-care. Give special attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Get enough rest and exercise, eat healthy, and engage in positive and life-affirming hobbies, occupations, and pursuits. When you do this, you are able to give more to others because you have more to give.

*Repeat a self-love mantra.  Every morning when you wake up, repeat a phrase that acknowledges your specialness as a human being and the great gift you have been given, which is Life.  Say something like this:  “Today I am fortunate to wake up. I am alive. I am not going to waste this precious gift known as ‘Human Life.’  Instead of anger and fear, I will have thoughts of peace, love, confidence, and security. I am blessed.”  When you repeat this phrase on a daily basis, you will unleash hidden power. Instead of seeing the world from a mindset of lack and insecurity, you will realize that there is an abundance of everything you need in the world, and within yourself.

It's important to remember that healthy self-love is not egotism, selfishness, or narcissism. It is a balanced appreciation and acceptance of who you really are, while recognizing the specialness of all human beings. When you love yourself authentically, you have more love to give to others.  You also have more energy, vitality, and confidence to achieve your greatness and leave a lasting legacy of goodness, love, and contribution. Love yourself today, and spread your love to the world without expectation. That is the greatest secret of all.

GRATITUDE: THE TREMENDOUS POWER THAT WILL ATTRACT EVERYTHING YOU NEED

Gratitude is a tremendous power for inner and outer success.  Gratitude is the recognition and appreciation that the good that you receive comes from outside you—from the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), loved ones, and even from strangers.  When you are grateful, you have less depression and anxiety, and better sleep. You also have growth and increase in your finances, career, relationships, health, joy, and ultimate success. On our latest Love University Podcast, we discovered how to unleash the tremendous power of Gratitude in your daily life. Here’s what we learned:

*Use Gratitude to Banish Ungratefulness. When ungrateful thoughts come in your mind—"I never get any breaks; everyone is doing better than me”—don’t dwell on these mental intruders.  Instead, think of everything that you’re grateful for:  Your life, loved ones, friends, career, finances, the place you live, the food you eat, clothes you wear, your pets, hobbies, and the marvelous things you are able to see, feel, and experience. Look around and observe the beauty of the world: babies, sunsets,  nature, inventions, creations, and love expressed by those who love. Always realize that there is much to be grateful about in the world.  

*Be grateful in advance.  To get what you want, be grateful for what you want, even if you don’t have it yet.  If you want a new house, for example, visualize that you already have it and be grateful for it. When you do this, you will release a tremendous amount of positive energy that will help make your dream home a reality. Because you are already experiencing the same feelings (joy) that you would have if you owned the house, you will generate more enthusiasm, perseverance, and dedication to make your dream come true.

*Love more fully each day.  You don’t know how long you have on earth, so it’s important that you give all the love you have to give on a daily basis.  Say “I love you” to those you truly care about.  Do what you love to do for work. Express love mentally to everyone around you—even strangers. When you do this, your level of gratitude and appreciation for life will soar, and you will attract more wonderful people, opportunities, and circumstances into your world.

Love University students, your goal this week is to practice gratitude on a daily basis. When you do this, you will raise yourself to greater heights of emotional and spiritual well-being. You will also help create a circle of gratefulness in which you inspire others to be grateful as well. Remember: A grateful world is a happy and joyous place where love and harmony abound.  Be grateful today and always.

DO THE IMPOSSIBLE: THE AMAZING POWER OF THE HARA--ONE POINT FOCUS

You have a tremendous power near your navel. It is called the Hara. In Eastern philosophy and martial arts, the Hara is the physical point that exists two inches below your navel. When a martial artist is centered in their Hara, they cannot be pushed or pulled by another person, no matter how strong the other individual is. They have tremendous one-point focus. In today’s Love University Podcast, you will learn how to apply the power of the Hara—one point focus—to maintain your mental balance and actualize your dreams.  Here’s what you can do:

*Ask yourself: What’s the most important thing I need to do today that would make everything else unnecessary?  By narrowing your focus to your ultimate goal for the day—family, health, spiritual development, creativity—everything else will tend to fall into place. When you do the most important thing first, you will find that you have enough time and energy to take care of the practical and mundane aspects of life.

*Redirect your Distractions:  Distractions fill your world—technology, people, things to do, your own thoughts.  To maintain a one-point focus, you need to be aware of, and eliminate, distractions.  In a pad or notebook, write down all the things that distract you and drain your energy on a daily basis, whether it’s social media, needless texts, or negative news. Also, write down how you feel when you participate in the distracting activity (sad, worried, stressed). Now, redirect your attention and focus to the things that really matter and make a positive difference in your life—career/work, family, spiritual and physical health, and improving your state of mind. When you do this, you will be more focused, peaceful and powerful.

*Practice the Million Mile Palm:  In this exercise, you will stand with your right foot in front, and feet shoulder length apart. You will inhale deeply and bring your right palm up to your face (palm facing to the left). Now imagine that there is a solid brick next to your face that represents the most serious problem or obstacle that stands in the way to achieving your ultimate goal. Perhaps, you see the barrier as being a lack of money, ability, education, and so forth. Next, as you exhale, quickly and explosively extend your palm straight out as far as you can reach as if you were pushing through the brick, one million miles into the distance. As you do this, visualize that you have already accomplished your goal, whether it’s a great relationship, amazing job, impeccable health, or sterling financial/career success.. Rejoice. You have broken through the mental barrier that has kept you from fulfilling your dream by going one million miles beyond it.

It's true. With practice and perseverance, you can develop the pure power of unadulterated one-point Hara focus.  With an inalterable focus and disciplined mind, you will blast beyond the barriers and obstacles of life to reach your ultimate destination: Love, success, and happiness.

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DEBT SUCKS: GET OUT OF DEBT AND INTO FINANCIAL FREEDOM: WITH SPECIAL GUEST, JA’NET ADAMS, INTERNATIONAL FINANCIAL COACH

As we enter the New Year, money is on the minds of many people.  The good news is that this year can be your most prosperous and successful year ever if you follow the rules of money and wealth. Our guest on Invincible You, Ja’Net Adams, an international money coach, enlightened us on how to start 2022 in the right financial way.  Here’s what we learned:

Create a Positive Money Story. Many people learn negative money stories when they’re growing up (“you’ll die in debt”; “money doesn’t grow on trees”). The key is to write down and repeat positive money stories to yourself on a daily basis, “I can be rich,” “There is more abundance in my life every day.”  When you do this, you will attract more abundance and riches—financial and emotional—into your life.

Know Your Money Type. It’s important to embrace your money style and do what feels comfortable to you.  If you’re a Security Seeker, you like to save and invest money. If you’re a Meaning Seeker, use money for your crusade or mission to help others in life (a nonprofit). If you’re a Knowledge Seeker, use money to advance your wisdom and knowledge (seminars, conferences, books).  Finally, if you’re an Excitement Seeker, you can learn how to put money aside in a “fun” fund to do the exotic, fun things you have always wanted to do (safari in Africa).

Don’t Let Money Get in the Way of Your Dreams.  Ask yourself, if money weren’t an object, what would I do (your dream)?  Make a Dream Sheet and write down your short-term (paying off debt), middle-term (buying a better car), and long-term dreams (travel, your children’s college education). When you have a definite money plan and implement it, you will have the motivation to save and invest to reach your ultimate goals in life.

The truth is that money can be a vehicle for love. When you do something you love, you receive appreciation in the form of money. Then, you take that money to buy goods and services, and you express appreciation for what you receive. In this way, money can circulate throughout the world—bringing love and positivity to humanity. Make this year your most prosperous ever by creating a positive money story, knowing your money type, and using money to achieve your dreams of love, health, and happiness for you and your loved ones.