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Sunday Feb 05, 2023
Sunday Feb 05, 2023
Would you like to find your soul mate for Valentine's Day? Join us for a special live event at Port's Restaurant in Corona Del Mar, Feb 10th at 7pm. On this special night, you will wear a color mask that represents your unique personality LoveType (romantic style). Then, you will mingle with other eligible singles as you learn the secrets of compatibility and partake in entertainment and delicious Persian food. At the end of the night, the masks come off, and you may find your compatible soul mate just in time for Valentine’s Day.
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See you at the Dating Masquerade!
Sunday Feb 05, 2023
Sunday Feb 05, 2023
Have you ever felt down and out—sad, depressed, and feeling like nothing seems to work? If so, you may have been under the influence of the Futility Thought Demon—the critical thought voice that tells you that you’re a failure and nothing will ever change. Now there’s a way to conquer the Futility Thought Demon and soar on the wings of self-love. Here are the secrets of emotional freedom we learned on the Love University Podcast:
*Ask yourself: “was I connected to my joy today?” Before you go to bed each night, reflect on the things that brought you joy during the day, perhaps, meditating or praying, communicating with loved ones, or enjoying some time outside in nature. Also, take note of the time you wasted on non-productive activities such as partaking in excessive social media or absorbing negative news. Strive each day to do the things you love, and you will elevate your mind and soul.
*Do the difficult things first. Make sure you handle the most important and emotionally challenging tasks at the beginning of your day. Make that difficult call, have an important discussion, do a crucial business task. When you get the difficult out of the way first, the rest of the day is easier, and you feel more confident and motivated.
*Access the power of positive habit. Every movement and thought requires energy. To improve your success and inner power, you need to build up positive habits and decrease negative habits. You can do this by managing the energy you expend in daily activities. For example, if you watch too much TV, you can move the TV remote to another part of the house so you have to walk to get it (spend energy). If you want to read more, put a book next to your couch in the living room to make it easier for you to access it. By doing these small actions, you restructure your mental patterns and accentuate positive activities that can help you build a better life.
*Give love without expectation. This is one of the most powerful secrets for vanquishing the Futility Thought Demon. Give kindness, appreciation, respect, and love to others—even to strangers. Smile, say “hi,” offer sincere compliments. Get to know other people in a deeper way; ask them questions about their dreams and values. Listen empathetically. When you do this, you not only help others, but you lift your mood from gloomy “poor me” to hopeful and loving “united we.” You see all people as part of you, and you as part of them—helping, loving, and growing.
Yes, you can defeat the gloomy and self-attacking thoughts in your head, the Futility Thought Demons of your mind. You can do this by being committed to your joy, doing the difficult thing first, accessing the power of positive habit, and loving without expectation. By doing these things, you will evaporate futility from your mind and bring love, joy, and good cheer into every ounce of your being
Friday Jan 27, 2023
Friday Jan 27, 2023
Do you feel shame, regret, or guilt for things you did or should have done? If so, you may be under the influence of the Bad Me Thought—the negative and critical inner voice that insists you screwed up, you’re a bad person, and you don’t deserve any better in life. On Love University podcast, we learned ways to eradicate the Bad Me Thought Demon—exaggerated shame and guilt—so you can live confidently and with peace and joy. Here’s what you can do to eliminate the Bad Me Thought Demon:
*Take moral inventory of your past actions and learn from them. If you made a mistake, acknowledge and learn from it. Maybe you hurt a loved one or messed up at work in a bad way. Resolve to apply the lessons learned to help you become a stronger and better person. You don’t have to beat yourself over the head constantly for your errors, blunders, and bad habits. You can grow from your experiences and move forward with your life.
*Affirm the Gift of Life. Instead of hiding from others and life because of the mistakes you’ve made, boldly enter the present and travel into the future. Embrace the gift of life and natural abilities you have been given by the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). Spend time with loved ones, do the hobbies and activities you love, and engage in a spiritual/meditative practice. Most importantly, shine your positive loving energy to everyone who crosses your path with a feeling of gratefulness and compassion.
*Catch others doing the right thing. There is an interesting psychological paradox. What we do to others, we often do to ourselves. When we condemn others, we are likely to condemn ourselves. When we forgive and are tolerant to others, we do the same for ourselves. To master the Bad Me Thought Demon, therefore, begin to reward people (verbally, affectionately) for saying and doing positive and uplifting things. Instead of being quick to judge, criticize, and condemn, develop empathy and put yourself in their shoes. Forgive them for their errors. With empathy, perhaps you realize that the person who made a cruel remark was having a bad day (family problems), and they are actually a decent and caring person. Strive to see the good in people, and you will start seeing the good in yourself.
Although some guilt can be useful to help you overcome weaknesses and remedy wrongs, the Bad Me Thought Demon exaggerates guilt and shame to humiliate and destroy you. The good news is that you don’t have to yield to its influence. While recognizing and learning from your mistakes, you can move forward to affirm the gift of life and help others along the way. After all, there is nothing for you to be ashamed about: You are human, you are free, and you are loved.
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: You can bring more positivity and fun into your life by joining us at our Valentine’s Love Masquerade on February 10th, in Port’s Restaurant, Corona Del Mar. On this special evening, you will have a chance to meet compatible singles and perhaps find your soul mate. Click here for tickets: shorturl.at/dkrsu.
Friday Jan 20, 2023
Friday Jan 20, 2023
There is a negative force that is out to get you. It is called the Thought Demons—the collection of all the negative and critical thoughts you’ve had in your mind since childhood. These include thoughts such as “You’re never make it. You’ll never find love. You’ll never be financially secure. You’re a loser.” The good news is that these voices can be defeated and you can live free from their malevolent influence. On Love University, we learned powerful techniques for eradicating the Thought Demons in your mind and finding joy and success. Here are the three steps of Thought Demon eradication:
*Identify the Thought Demon. In a journal, pad, or notebook write down the name of the particular negative or critical thought that is tormenting you the most at the moment. Maybe it’s the “Money Failure Thought Demon”—telling you that “You’re a loser with money. You will never have enough.” Draw what it looks like, with a certain color that represents its nature. Maybe, you will draw a skinny green goblin that laments the lack of money in your life.
*Talk back to the Thought Demon. Tell it, “I am smart and talented. I can make as much money as I want. I am stronger than you and I can make you disappear.” As you challenge the Thought Demon, realize that it has no power to harm or control you. You can be the master of your mind.
*Develop your Love Voice. Your love voice is the part of your mind that is loving, powerful, and healing. It tells you that you can succeed and you are worthy. To cultivate your Love Voice, think of all the love you have for your loved ones, friends, family, pets, work, and hobbies. When a Thought Demon tries to infiltrate your mind, think of all the good things in the world: the love between humans; the beauty of nature, and the great things that await you in the future.
The truth is that you can be free of the Thought Demons and get your mental life back. All you have to do is identify the critical thoughts, stand up to them, and develop your positive, healing Love Voice. When you do this, you can rid yourself of the Thought Demons and regain control over your mind. You can live effortlessly, with peace, power, hope, and love. Start today: Say goodbye to the Thought Demons and say hello to your authentic and confident loving nature.
Saturday Jan 07, 2023
Saturday Jan 07, 2023
Would you like to have ultimate confidence, success, and joy? You can have it by tapping into the majesty and power of the Higher Nature. Known by many names—God, spirit, nature, essence—the Higher Nature is the unifying principle of the universe. It is the all-powerful, all-knowing, and all-loving entity that gives you compassion and wisdom. The Higher Nature is not merely a religious or spiritual concept. It is a living symbol for something good that exists in you and beyond you—providing you with a personal experience of the immense potential of the universe. On our Love University podcast, we learned valuable tips for accessing the power of the Higher Nature to transform your life. Here’s what we learned:
*Do prayer walking. On a daily basis, speak to the Higher Nature (pray) as you walk. As you do this, notice the beauty and goodness of life. If you’re outdoors or in nature, look around and connect the concept of the Higher Nature to everything you see. If you see a tree, you can think, “Higher Nature, let me be big and strong like that tree.” When you observe a bird, you can remark: “Higher Nature, allow me to soar free like the bird." As you talk to the Higher Nature in this way, make sure you express gratitude as you see the Higher Nature in everything—rocks, trees, sunsets, sun, moon, animals—and recognize the special ingredient poured into all things: Love.
*Infuse everything you do with love. Think of the Higher Nature’s love for you in your daily activities. Brush your teeth and wash your face with love (be grateful you have teeth and a face). Realize that the Higher Nature gave you a great vessel (your body) that you can enjoy and grow with as you walk, eat, work, love, and connect to your Higher Nature.
*Extend loving energy without expectation. One of the greatest secrets of happiness is to give love to others without expecting anything in return. Think of your Higher Nature as a great friend who loves you without expectation. You can do the same for others: be kind, loving, and compassionate; smile at them, listen to them empathetically, and give from your heart, mind, and soul. You will do all of this without expecting anything in return, not even a smile or thank you. In this way, you enter a mental place of loving unity and oneness in which balance, peace, power, and love become your daily companions.
How do you access the Higher Nature? By realizing that the Higher Nature, at its core, is the culmination of all the love, goodness, mercy, peace, and power in the universe. When you see a young couple in love, or a newborn baby, you see the Higher Nature. When you see a person saying goodbye to their loved one (dying), you see the Higher Nature. With your new Higher Nature perspective, you perceive all people and all things as innately exquisite and beautiful—creations of the Higher Nature. Now you can move beyond a limited perception and see love in yourself, others, and the Higher Nature. Now all will be well in your inner and outer world. You are free.
Tuesday Dec 20, 2022
Tuesday Dec 20, 2022
On our recent Love University episode, we welcomed back (in person and via flashbacks) our beloved former producer, Reggie. Reggie first came to us as an autistic, college-educated young man who was shy and had terrible luck with women. Now thirty, and never having a relationship with a woman, Reggie received dating advice from our Love University faculty of world-renowned matchmakers and love experts. Over the course of four years with the show, Reggie gained confidence in his dating and relationship skills, and is now on his way to finding the love of his life. In this retrospective, we pay honor to Reggie, and send him loving energy for an amazing future of love and happiness. Bon Voyage, Reggie, may your love be deep and your happiness everlasting.
Sincerely Dr. Alex Avila and the Love University Podcast Team
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Would you like to rule your world? To have such power and mastery over your own mind and life that you can achieve your dreams and help others reach theirs? If the answer is “yes,” then you need to become a Love Warrior—a person who is strong, confident, and fearless, while at the same time. loving, empathetic, and compassionate. On Part Two of our Love Warrior (LW) series, we learned how to develop the amazing LW skill of Intelligent Selflessness—self-confidence and self-love combined with forgetfulness of self and loving and serving others. Here’s what you need to do to be an unstoppable Love Warrior who has Intelligent Selflessness:
*Do small good deeds. Open the door for someone, help an elderly person cross the street, listen to a hurting friend, help a needy person. When you do these small selfless acts, you build your internal enthusiasm and confidence for doing more for others as you uplift your own spirit in the process.
*Take pleasure in the success of others. The best way to defeat the cloud of envy is to be happy when others succeed. When you do this, you realize that the Universe is an abundant place that has more than enough resources for everyone, including you. Learn from other people’s successes and you will be successful as well, in your own way.
*Find selfless mentors. Study the lives of people—current or historical figures—who have made a great impact on the world through their selflessness and desire to help others. Model yourself after these inspiring individuals (Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Malala Yousafzai, people you know personally). Smile as they smiled, use humor like they did. Imitate their actions by bringing hope to the hopeless, food to the hungry, and love to the loveless.
*Lose your desire for time hoarding. In our busy world, many people think, “I don’t have time to help others; I barely have enough time for myself and my loved ones.” This is the wrong way to think. When you’re a Love Warrior, you realize that loving and serving others is the best possible use of your time. Although you practice self-care and meet the needs of your loved ones, you also make the time to extend love and support to others around you. You pause from your day to smile and say “hello,” listen attentively to hurting people, and do what you can to alleviate suffering. By doing this, you will not only help others, but you will also slow down and bring more calmness, relaxation, and contentment into your life.
When you become the Love Warrior, you will disarm aggression and fear, and you will create an atmosphere of peace, harmony, and understanding. At the same time, you will not be a pushover—you will know when to fight and stand your ground—as you vanquish cruelty and injustice. You will also know when to yield, serve, and give. In the end, your shield is understanding and your sword is love. Your ultimate aim as a Love Warrior is to bring harmony and love to the world, one person at a time.
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
In a world of conflict and strife, there is one who stands above. This individual is called the Love Warrior: a person who defuses hostility and brings harmony, peace, and balance into any situation. On our Love University Podcast, we showed you how to become a Love Warrior in our contentious world—fighting for love, defeating nervousness, and finding victory with peace. On Part One of the Love Warrior Series, you will learn how to develop the powerful Love Warrior trait known as Confident Gentleness—being strong and confident, yet humble and loving. Here’s how you can become Confidently Gentle:
*Spend time with gentle creatures. Watch YouTube videos, or spend time with (perhaps even own) a gentle creature like the Golden Retriever or Llama. As you observe these special gentle animal beings, visualize absorbing their gentle spirit within yourself.
*Soften your voice. Become aware of how your voice changes when you are angry or upset. You may have a higher pitch, speak in an angry growl, or have a fast staccato voice. When you see yourself hardening and harshening your speech, make an effort to slow down and speak more softly. Take a deep breath and mentally repeat the words, “Gentle, soft, peaceful.” This will help defuse your anger and calm your mind.
*Be gentle with yourself. To be gentle with others, you first need to be gentle with yourself. Make sure you take the time to exercise, relax, spend time with loved ones, do your favorite hobbies/activities, and engage in a spiritual/meditative practice. Forgive your past mistakes or blunders. When you do this, you will love yourself more and develop an unshakeable inner confidence.
*Let others win momentary battles. Instead of fighting so hard with other people over trivial matters, let them win. Give someone the parking space you normally would fight over, allow the other person to have the last word in the argument. When you do this, you are not being a pushover or loser. You are winning because you have won without having to fight a battle. You have taught the other person the value of gentleness and peace of mind. You have your mind on a higher aim: Trading a life of hostility and fighting for one of peace and love.
You can be a Love Warrior: kind, compassionate, gentle, patient, firm, and confident. As a Love Warrior, you will respect yourself and others. You will set firm limits (boundaries) regarding the behavior of others toward you—you won’t let people take advantage of you. At the same time, you will be empathetic and compassionate. You realize that the angry or aggressive person is suffering from their own fiery nature. As a Love Warrior, you are not affected by the negativity of others because you live in a different place. It is called Love without expectation—you stand firm and love others and the world, without expecting anything in return. Now you are invincible. You are the true Love Warrior.
Wednesday Nov 23, 2022
Wednesday Nov 23, 2022
Would you like to be a full potential person? A full potential person is someone who maximizes their abilities and achieves their dreams. Maslow called it being self-actualized, being at the peak of your self-development and fully realizing your potential. You can go as far as you want in life by becoming a Full Potential Person—someone who is authentic, powerful, and loving. Here’s what we learned about becoming a Full Potential Person on our recent Podcast:
Follow Your Hara: In the martial arts, the Hara is the physical point two inches below the navel that is the center of balance, power, and intuition. When you focus on your Hara, you are tapping into your gut instinct, the part of you that knows what is right and true. When you’re faced with a difficult decision, close your eyes, breath deeply, and focus on the point two inches below your navel. Ask the Hara: What should I do? As your intuition becomes clearer, you will receive the right answer—now follow your gut.
Embrace the Unknown: When your Hara tells you to do something different, take a risk and do it. Talk to a new person, go to a different place, or try a new look or hobby. You never know what good will come of a new opportunity, a new opening in the door of life. When you talk to a new person, you don’t know where the conversation will lead you—maybe you will discover an interesting acquaintance or friend, or perhaps even a great business or romantic partner. Be open to trying new things and you will reap many benefits.
Build your “Zone of Excellence”: Have you ever been immersed in an activity you love, and you lost track of time and your worries? Everything felt natural and easy. This ultimate mental state is known as the “Zone of Excellence.” When you’re in the Zone of Excellence, you lose your self-conscious concerns, and you become one with the activity or circumstance you’re experiencing. To develop this Zone, you can begin by building up small moments of excellence; you can break down big goals into smaller tasks that you can accomplish and feel good about. For example, if you want to start a physical fitness program, you can begin by exercising a brief amount of time, perhaps 15-20 minutes at first. As you feel stronger and gather more momentum, you will gradually increase the time you spend exercising (thirty minutes, one hour). Soon, you will find yourself in the Zone of Excellence—that marvelous place of mind where you do everything with authenticity, confidence, and love.
Yes, you can become a Full Potential Person who makes your dreams come true. All you have to do is follow your Hara, embrace the unknown, and build your zone of excellence. When you do this, you will flow naturally with the rhythms of life. You will achieve your highest level of being and joy every moment of every day.
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Would you like to be irresistibly persuasive and appealing to others? You can develop more charisma—compelling attractiveness and charm—by following the principles we discussed on our recent Love University Podcast. With charisma, you generate confidence, goodwill, and trust. With charisma, you can overcome obstacles and attract the right people and circumstances into your life. Here’s what you need to do.
*Be Authentic. A charismatic person is genuine and authentic. Be true to yourself and express your real opinions instead of pretending to be someone you’re not just to impress others. Keep a notebook or pad in which you write down your daily interactions with others. Record the times you felt confident and authentic, and also when you felt insecure and fake. Then, strive to duplicate those scenarios in which you felt authentic and in control; charming and attractive. Maybe you feel more confident having technological discussions in certain chat rooms. Or, you may feel confident when you’re in religious/spiritual settings with likes-minded people of faith. Strive to reproduce as many confident and authentic moments so you can lock in the mental image of yourself as a powerful and genuine individual.
*Accentuate Your Similarities. It’s true that we tend to like people who share similar interests, perspectives, values, and goals. Therefore, when you talk to someone, it’s a good idea to focus on your similarities. Maybe you both lived in the same city before, went to the same school, or enjoy the same food or hobby. Ask questions and seek to establish conversational common ground. The key to this approach is to be sincere. Don’t pretend to like something just because you want the other person to like you. Genuinely find things that both of you have in common—sports, politics, spirituality/religion, hobbies, world events, values, or life perspective. When you share commonalities in attitudes and preferences with others, you will have a delightful conversation that can blossom into a nice friendship.
*Be generous. Genuinely charismatic individuals focus on the benefits they can offer to others—how they can help, serve, and give. Although they give freely, they are also aware of the universal law that the more positivity they put out into the world, the more they will receive in return. As a blossoming charismatic person, you also understand that generosity is not just about giving money to others. You can also be generous with your time, energy and emotional resources (being an empathetic listener). When you do this, others will appreciate your investment in them. They will tend to reciprocate and offer you something of value in return. However, even if a particular person doesn’t return your generosity, there’s a good likelihood that you will receive an equivalent benefit from someone else. It’s true that the Universe rewards the giver over time.
The good news is that you can be a charismatic person who attracts, persuades, influences, and contributes to the lives of others. Focus this week on being authentic, accentuating your similarities with others, and being generous. By doing this, you will tap into your natural charm and confidence, and you will be happier, have better relationships, and achieve more success than ever before. Charisma can be your superpower to help you achieve your dreams and help others achieve theirs. Begin your charisma program today.