Invincible You with Dr. Alex Avila

THE 3 SECRETS OF HAPPINESS, PART ONE: THE BEGINNING OF YOUR MIRACULOUS LIFE, FROM DR. AVILA’S ACCLAIMED BOOK, THE 3 SECRETS OF HAPPINESS

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ONE TRUTH: Apply the lessons from the martial arts master and sage, Tanaka, you will achieve ultimate success far beyond your dreams.

There are secrets to happiness—three of them in fact. In this series of transformative talks by Dr. Avila on Love University, you will not only learn the three secrets of happiness, but you will discover how to live a miraculous life. You will achieve greatness in your relationships, career, finances, health, and happiness.  But, first, you will take a journey of surprising enlightenment by meeting our protagonists, Harry, the pompous psychiatrist who thinks he already knows all of the answers, and Tanaka, the martial arts master and sage who breaks down Harry’s ego and shows him the truth of his own being. Get ready to learn the lessons of true contentment as you delve into the story of your own empowerment.

DISCARD YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE AND LIVE THE JOYOUS LIFE: WITH SPECIAL GUEST, JACKELINE CACHO, SPANISH TELEVISION SUPERSTAR AND BESTSELLING AUTHOR

Are you carrying emotional hurts, fears, and sadness from the past that are limiting your joy and success?  If so, you can rid yourself of these self-defeating thoughts and feelings and live a free and joyous life.  On Love University podcast, we learned lessons of self-love, forgiveness, and gratitude from Jackeline Cacho, former Ms. Peru contestant, Emmy-nominated TV personality, bestselling author (“My Emotional Backpack", “Mi Mochila Emocional”), and international inspirational speaker. After surviving a devastating three car rollover accident, Jackeline suffered from anxiety attacks for seven years until she learned to master her fear and awaken her inner power. Here’s what Jackeline shared with us:

*Everything happens for a reason; be grateful for what you have. When she saw her father’s dead body (heart attack) at age 17, she was devastated. For many years, she blamed herself for not going to him earlier to save him. But now she realizes that she could not have done anything differently and she needed to forgive herself. She realized that her father is proud of her now, looking upon her from a higher place, as she achieves great things and inspires others.

*Latino women need to speak up.  Jackeline explains how many Latino women remain silent and try to keep a happy face even though they are suffering inside.  The key, says Jackeline, is for all women to awaken their inner power and express their authentic selves. An enlightened woman can achieve her unique destiny while influencing her husband/love partner and children to reach their fullest potential.

*Relationships may not be perfect, but love is.  After 17 years of marriage, Jackeline says she is still deeply in love with her husband. She counsels other couples to recognize that love is the equalizing force in all successful relationships. Although disagreements and problems may arise in the relationship, it’s true that a strong bond of unconditional love will get couples through any obstacle.

After overcoming heartbreak and loss to achieve a life of success and contribution, Jackeline sums up her philosophy with the phrase: “We are all divine creatures—we need to believe in something divine.” When she was in the horrendous car accident, she says a mysterious man came out of nowhere to counsel her, and then he disappeared. No one else saw him, but she is sure he was an “angel,” who was there to help her (she emerged without any physical injuries). As Jackeline advises, we as human beings can all work together to be each other’s angels; we can be loving agents of change to create a better, more beautiful, and loving world.

Are You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist Mind

Are you with a Narcissist?  The term “narcissism” has been used a lot lately, but there are some truths and myths about what it really means.  A narcissist can be defined as someone who has excessive interest and admiration of themselves, needing constant admiration, and often puts other people down to feel better (lacking empathy). In relationships they can make you suffer.  Our guest on Love University Podcast, Darlene Lancer (Santa Monica Counseling, Psychotherapist in Santa Monica, CA - Darlene Lancer, MFT), therapist and author (Codependency for Dummies), shed light on the narcissistic personality and how to protect yourself from them.

*Narcissists can be exciting in the beginning.  Because they need to win you over to feel good about themselves, they can love bomb you (give you over the top affection, fun, and romance). Once they win you over, then they start to devalue you—you’re never good enough for them.

*Narcissists are wounded early in life. One of the biggest causes of the narcissistic personality is a childhood emotional wound—primarily large amounts of shame.  When parents say, “You’re bad,” or “You shouldn’t feel that way” to children, they often start to feel inferior.  To compensate, they may “inflate” their ego to appear better, stronger, and smarter, while at the same time putting others down to feel better.

*There is such a thing as healthy narcissism. A healthy narcissist is someone who takes care of themselves, and demonstrates confidence, leadership, and goal setting. They believe in themselves and their abilities, and they are able to get things done.  The key is having just the right amount of narcissism (self-love) while also being compassionate and empathetic to the needs of others.

*You can escape from a destructive narcissist.  Because they don’t really value you, narcissists can be destructive to your self-esteem.  To get away from them—relationship or marriage—you can try several approaches. One is to “gray rock” them—you become unresponsive or dull so they leave you. Also, avoid getting into an emotional back and forth argument with them—communicate your needs in a straightforward way, while establishing boundaries (“I won’t accept that”). Finally, cultivate self-love—eat healthy, exercise, engage in your preferred hobbies and activities, spend time with support friends, and cultivate a spiritual or meditative practice.

The key to a happy and healthy life is balance. If you have co-dependent tendencies—rely excessively on your partner emotionally and always put them first—you will suffer from lack of self-worth.  If you have too much narcissism (excessive self-absorption), then you will alienate others and never be completely happy. The solution is to follow the middle path: maintain humbleness and compassion, while also having confidence, self-belief, and self-love. If you do this, you will achieve your potential and develop healthy and balanced relationships.

THE AMAZING STORY OF DAVID AMBROZ: FROM HOMELESS AND ABUSED FOSTER CHILD TO AMERICAN CHAMPION OF CHANGE

The problem of childhood poverty has many consequences. These include homelessness, abuse, and children’s separation from their biological parents.  Our guest on Love University Podcast, David Ambroz, shared his harrowing and inspirational story of being a homeless child caught up in the system (A Place Called Home; davidambroz.com). Eventually through the love of his mentally ill mother, and his own resolve, David graduated from UCLA school of law and has worked at community leadership positions at Walt Disney and Amazon. He was also recognized by President Obama as an American Champion of Change. Here’s what we learned about how to help eradicate child poverty and suffering in the US:

*There is no roadmap to resilience.  David takes exception to research that points out certain characteristics that can help a child become resilient and overcome trauma (e.g., having a pleasant personality).  He explains how, as a foster kid, he could fake having a “pleasing personality” to get food, but that wasn’t necessarily his true nature.  Also, David explains, there’s rarely such a thing as “getting over the trauma.” Now in his 40’s he still chokes up when he thinks about some of his homeless and abusive experiences as a child (covered in lice; eating cereal with maggots; sexually abused).  He explains: “Vulnerability is a superpower—life is the fire that forges you.” In the end, everyone must follow their individual path to health and healing.

*You can choose to have unconditional love. David explains that he chose to have unconditional love for his mother. Due to her mental illness—a form of schizophrenia—she could be alternatively loving and abusive (physically). Yet, deep down, he knew his mother always loved him and encouraged all of her children to “reach for the stars.” David went to law school and his other siblings also achieved rewarding careers.  Now, he has taken care of his mother (for twenty years). He understands her “mental prison” and loves her unconditionally. There is no greater love.

*Storytelling is key to growth and wisdom.  During his childhood years, David read a lot. His mother would encourage it constantly and he spent a lot of time in libraries (also to wash himself in the bathroom). Although the new generations are now reading more on their tablets and phones, and taking in information in smaller portions, it is still a good thing to read.  Ultimately, storytelling is the key to learning and growing—a tradition that dates back to ancient times. Although the medium has changed as technology advances, young people and older people alike can be inspired, motivated, and taught by excellent stories, such as the one David wrote in his memoir, A Place Like Home. 

*Empathy is crucial to helping eradicate childhood poverty. Ask yourself, how would I feel if my child was homeless? Many people avoid looking at homeless people or giving them money (“they’ll use it for drugs”), yet they are human beings just like us. If we put ourselves in their shoes (“For the grace of the Higher Nature—God, spirit, nature—there go I”), then our attitude will change and our hearts will melt. We will want to help in any way we can—by giving money, time, and making a difference at the community and legislative level to improve the condition of the impoverished in this country.

We need more effective community programs to end the cycle of poverty, abuse, and violence. As a community activist, David is a strong proponent of city, state, and federal programs to help poverty victims—children and adults—get on their feet and live purposeful lives. He proposes establishing college dorm rooms (free) for foster teens who want to go to college. In addition, to encourage more social workers to enter the profession, he suggests giving them incentives such as loan forgiveness and loan assistance for buying a house. Other plans include offering more wraparound support services to help biological parents financially and psychologically so they can keep their children, as well as offering benefits to bring more good foster parents into the picture (making them federal/county employees; giving their children free college after ten years of service).  By decriminalizing poverty and encouraging more good people to help children—biological parents, social workers, foster parents, adoptive parents—our youth will have a better opportunity to enjoy a secure and loving environment so they can shine their potential.

David’s message of suffering and hope can be summarized with the phrase, “Our love is all one.”  We are united in our emotions, desires, hopes, and dreams as human beings—regardless of our race, ethnicity, age, gender, sexual orientation, economic status, and so on. The fundamental needs for humans are to have physical and economic security, to love and be loved, and to make a difference or contribution to the world. By working and uniting together, we can help create a brighter future for our children and a loving world for all.

DR AVILA ANSWERS YOUR ULTIMATE QUESTIONS: MAKE YOUR LIFE A MIRACLE

Would you like to turn your life into a miracle and achieve your dreams?  Now you can by applying certain time-tested secrets for living your best life.  On our latest Love University podcast, Dr. Avila answers reader’s most pressing questions about how to enjoy the Invincible Life—how to triumph despite the obstacles. Here’s what we learned:

*Shake with hands of love. Imagine that your hands have hundreds of individual loving minds.  When you shake someone’s hand, imagine that you’re transferring loving energy to them as they do the same for you.

*Practice “Right Emotional Memory.”  You may make the mistake of exaggerating the pleasure you received from a bad habit/action (eating too much), while forgetting the pain (feeling bloated; gaining weight). In this new approach you will remember the pain from self-defeating actions (binging on junk food), and you will seek the pleasure of right action (eating healthy and exercising).  

*Stop fearing the relaxation you seek. You may assume that tension is a power that keeps your life together (overscheduling; overuse of technology). Because you’re afraid to be bored or nonproductive, you don’t allow yourself to experience true relaxation and peace of mind. The solution is to take a “technology fast”—put away your devices for a while. Observe your feelings when you’re just sitting still. Part of your mind—self-defeating—will pressure you into checking your devices (“You’re missing something important”). Refuse the temptation and choose the right course of relaxation and peace—you will be happier and more productive in the long run.

*Realize the true battle is not “You against the World.”  When you feel discouraged or discontented you may think that you’re fighting against the world and other people (“I can’t get what I want”). In reality, it’s not “you against the world.” It’s You (Invincible Mind: “You can do it”) versus you (self-defeating mind: “You’re not good enough”).  The solution is to live from your Invincible Mind—the part of you that is at a high psychological level and can’t be harmed by the negativity of the world or your own mind. Think of your Invincible Mind like a pure waterfall of clear water that wipes away all of the dirt and negativity of the self-defeating mind. Now you are ready to live with full joy and creativity.

*To find someone to love, externalize your inner love. You may have chased other people and been frustrated that you can’t find someone to love (who loves you). Perhaps, you feel lonely and jump at the first person who seems somewhat compatible, only to find that you’re getting yourself into another relationship mess. The answer is to love yourself and your Don (God/nature given talent). Take a break from socializing and trying to meet a special someone. Instead, focus on loving yourself and enjoying life. Practice your talent, enjoy a new hobby, engage in a spiritual or meditative practice; spend quality time with close, long-term supportive friends and family members (including dogs and children). One quick way to eradicate loneliness in your mind is to help other lonely and needy people (volunteer, contribute). It’s true: The more you extend love to others without expectation, the more your loneliness will vanish. and love in many forms will take its place in your life.

The answers to life’s most perplexing questions are simple: Love yourself, love others, and love a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). On a daily basis, extend loving energy to yourself and others, build up your Invincible Mind while reducing the self-defeating mind, and take time to nurture yourself and enjoy times of peace and relaxation. If you do these things, you will be on your way to living a miraculous and beautiful life that leaves a lasting legacy for all to see.

For the Love of Dogs: Life and Love Lessons from Our Furry Friends, With Special Guest, W. Bruce Cameron, #1 NY Times bestselling author (“A Dog’s Purpose,” major motion picture)

When NY times bestselling author, W. Bruce Cameron, was on a road trip with his girlfriend, she shared some sad news: Her first dog had just died. She was crying and inconsolable. Then, W. Bruce was inspired to tell her a story about a dog that reincarnates and eventually ends up in heaven with his owner. The story became a beloved novel and movie (“A Dog’s Purpose, and sequels), and catapulted W. Bruce (wbrucecameron.com) as the dog lover novelist (he also married his passenger). Appearing on our Love University Podcast, W. Bruce shared his insights on the unbreakable love bond between dogs and humans. Here's what we discussed about dogs and the lessons they can teach us:  

Dogs and humans are evolutionary programmed to love each other.  In ancient times, the human-wolf (later dog) bond developed as wolves helped humans hunt and survive better. Those humans who worked well with wolves tended to survive and pass along their genes, while wolves who worked well with humans were taken care of and were able to reproduce.  Now, according to W. Bruce, in modern times, it’s in our respective DNAs to love dogs and dogs to love us.

Dogs give us pure unconditional, forgiving love.  People are judgmental, but dog’s aren’t.  A human will say to another, “You look terrible with that shirt,” or “You hurt me back in 2020—I can’t forget it.”   A dog doesn’t care what you look like; they will still love you if your hair is all messed up. They also don't hold grudges (you put them outside when company came), yet they are still super excited to see you when you come get them.   Strive to be the same toward yourself and others—forgiving, accepting, and loving.

A dog enjoys the simple pleasures. We live in a rush-rush society—multitasking, technology overload, trying to cram one more thing into our day.  Take a lesson from dogs—they enjoy the simple pleasures of the moment.  Even a car ride around the corner is exciting for them. When they take you for a walk, they stop to smell everything and really enjoy it.  Follow their example, “Smell the essence of life”—wherever you go, and whatever you do, strive to savor and relish the sights, sounds, tastes, and smells of the experience. Slow down and enjoy the simple pleasures of life.

Dogs fully accept everything.  Dogs are masters at going with the flow. W. Bruce talks about a dog that lost the use of their leg and were in a cart.  Yet, the dog was happy because it didn’t have pain and it could spend time with its loved ones. What a beautiful way for us to live as humans if we could accept everything that happens to us—as we find the silver lining in even the darkest of clouds.

You have a short life span—enjoy every minute.  The average dog has a lifespan of 10 to 13 years. Yet, in that short time period, dogs can pack a great deal of fun, adventure, love, and joy.  You can do the same. Realize that your physical time on earth is limited, but the love you create and share is eternal. Like a dog, you can be grateful for every “treat” you experience in life, and approach each moment of existence with joy and anticipation.

1. Bruce says the biggest concern of a loving dog is what will happen to their human after the dog is gone. Ultimately, W. Bruce’s dog books are about reunification and returning to the ones we love; otherwise known as eternal love.  This uplifted love can be between humans and each other, humans and a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), and humans and animals.  It’s true that dogs are truly a great gift to our world. They teach us how to be generous, nonjudgmental, and forgiving. They show us how to enjoy the present without worrying about the future or regretting the past. Let’s face it: It’s a dog’s world, and you’re living in it. Enjoy.

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YOU WILL FIND YOUR PEOPLE: ELIMINATE LONELINESS AND FIND WONDERFUL FRIENDS, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, LANE MOORE, AWARD-WINNING ACTRESS AND COMEDIAN (”TINDER LIVE”)

HOW TO BE A COMPASSIONATE BAD A**: POWER LESSONS FOR SELF-CONFIDENCE, JOY, AND SUCCESS, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, SEAN KANAN, ICONIC ACTOR ON “COBRA KAI” AND “KARATE KID III”

Do you feel like you can’t get to the next level of your success?  Are obstacles, both internal and external, stopping you from achieving your dreams. If that’s the case, then get ready for a powerful mindshift into excellence and authentic power.  On Love University podcast, we learned valuable lessons of ultimate success from Sean Kanan, Emmy® winning producer, and talented actor and writer. Sean was the original “Bad Boy of Karate (Karate Kid III) and now appears on the hit series Cobra Kai.  In his new role as “sensei of your mind,” teacher and author, Sean (wayofthecobra.com), reveals some of the most powerful “mind hacks” to get you on the path to ultimate joy, success, and fulfillment. Here’s what we learned:

*Become a Cobra: When you become a Cobra, you are the most authentic, self-aware, empathetic, strong, and confident human being you can possibly be. COBRA is an acronym that stands for Character, Optimization (taking the best action), Balance, Respect, and Abundance. When you focus on developing these qualities, the sky is the limit for your joy and success.

*Welcome to the Kumite. In martial arts, Kumite stands for sparring as well as an epic battle. In the Kumite of your mind, your greatest opponent is “You” (your self-defeating thoughts: “I’m not good enough,” etc.). You can defeat the negative thought energies by being truly authentic, treating yourself and others with respect, and loving without expectation.

*Choose Your Hard.  Sean tells us that you need to choose the hard thing that will bring you the greatest results and contentment.  Marriage is hard, but so is divorce (even harder).  Working out is hard, but so is being overweight (even harder). Therefore, you need to decide if you want a little right pain now (eating junk food) and a lifetime of pleasure (great health), or a little pleasure now (tasty junk snack) or a lifetime of pleasure (poor health). The choice is clear; choose the little right pain now for a lifetime of pleasure.

*Live by Your Creed. A creed is a set of beliefs or aims which guide your actions. In the Kenpo Karate creed, it says, “I come to you with only empty hands, I have no weapons. But should I be forced to defend myself, my principles, or my honor, should it be a matter of life or death, of right or wrong, then here are my weapons, Karate, empty hands.”  Sean’s creed is to know who you are and never compromise your character.  Don’t act like someone you’re not just to please others. Your greatest gift to the world is to be who you are and shine your talent and love for all to experience.  

During his interview on Love University, Sean explained how he almost lost his life as he was beginning work in Karate Kid III due to a medical emergency. From that near-death experience, he learned the value of humbleness, gratefulness, and never quitting. One of the most powerful lessons Sean learned was “You’re enough.”  By embracing your strengths and recognizing your weaknesses, you realize that you don’t have to be anything different than who you already are. You don’t have to push, chase, or convince anyone to do anything. You can simply be your truest nature and extend your loving energy to the world.  That is your greatest joy and your greatest reward.

Be Proud of Who You Are: A Sister’s Love Story, with Special Guest Cara Mentzel, acclaimed children’s author and sister of Idina Menzel, Broadway and Film Singing Superstar (“Frozen”)

Are you proud of your talent and do you show it to the  world? Maybe you don’t quite believe in your ability and you keep yourself from shining. Even worse, perhaps you’re envious of others who are living the life you wished you could have.  In our latest Love University podcast, we discovered some answers to these questions from our delightful guest, Cara Mentzel. Cara is an acclaimed author (Voice Lessons, Loud Mouse), as well as the sister of Idina Menzel, “The Queen of Broadway” who has voiced iconic songs like “Let it Go” from Frozen. Here’s what we learned from Cara’s insightful adult and children’s books, as well as from her life experiences with her famous sister, Idina:

*Children don’t have to have a thing.  When Cara was growing up, her older sister, Idina, was already demonstrating her great singing talent. They asked Cara if she could sing (“yes, but not like her”) and what she wanted to do in her life (something big like her sister?).  As an adult, Cara advises parents to let children develop interests, talents, and loves at their own pace. They don’t have to have one “thing” they want to do when they grow up. They can try different things; experiment, blossom, and grow—life is an ever-changing puzzle of development and it’s important to be flexible and open (Cara became a children’s author in her middle years).

*Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.   One of the most important traits to develop is curiosity.  When you are curious about other people, you can make new friends.  When you are curious about life, you can learn valuable things.  Always be curious, learning, growing, and experiencing—it’s the best way to live.

*Don’t be afraid to be too big.  In her charming children’s book, Loud Mouse (co-authored with her sister Idina), Cara describes a little mouse who physically grows big when she sings. She grows so big that she knocks other kindergarteners down with her loud voice. She becomes afraid of her talent, but her little sister “Lee” (Cara) says to her “Do you think a star can choose not to shine?” Then her sister, Dee (the little mouse) sings “with a full heart… with my whiskers out proud. I sing it big, I sing it… loud.” In the same way, recognize and embrace your gift or talent from the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature) and don’t be afraid to be “too big.” Maybe your gift is science, business, teaching, counseling, writing, speaking, working with your hands, persuading, entertaining, or being a caretaker (great parent). Whatever your  talent is, use it for the good of humanity .You were meant to be big in your own way and share your love and gift with the world.

*Sisterly Love can teach us universal love.  Cara said that one of her greatest pleasures in life is seeing her sister sing before a rapt audience as she shares the magic of her otherworldly singing.  People ask Cara if she has ever been jealous or envious of her sister. She answers: “What would I like better—to have my sister’s talent, or to be the sister who witnesses and feels pride at her sister’s accomplishments?” The answer, she says, is “to experience the joy of her sister’s talent and success.”  Cara also describes how her relationship with her sister reminds her of the beautiful Aspen trees.  Although they look like individual trees above ground, underneath, their roots are all connected, like one organism. In the same way, we are all individuals, but we are also one united support system. We are a connected unit of human consciousness and love.

*Let it Go. As her sister, Idina, sings in the beautiful theme song for Frozen, it’s important to let go of the past—our regrets, mistakes, and so-called failures. You may have been through a divorce, loss of finances, health, friendships, or lifestyle. Yet, it’s important to recognize that there are no wrong answers in life—it’s just you connecting with yourself, the world, and your Higher Nature. As the “Let it go” song says, “To test the limits and break through… I’m free.”

When you have a talent, you can feel blessed, but you may also feel vulnerable. People may say things about you that are not always positive. Yet, if you allow your talent to shine brightly, you will understand that the world needs you. By understanding the vulnerability that comes with strength, you can liberate yourself to be who you truly are. Sing and let your song resonate throughout the world.

HOW TO HAVE GREAT FRIENDS: WITH SPECIAL GUEST CAT MOORE, USC DIRECTOR OF BELONGING

Have you ever felt shy, lonely, or disconnected from others?  Now there’s a way to connect with others and have great friends.  Our guest on Love University, Cat Moore (cat-moore.com), USC Director of belonging, shared some insights on how to bring positive people into your life and feel a powerful sense of belonging and connection with others. Here’s what we learned:

*Make yourself “Tappable.”  Put yourself out there to interact with people. Go to public spaces, activities, and events. Smile at others, say “Hi,” pay sincere compliments.  Make yourself approachable and chances are someone interesting will start a conversation with you. If you’re shy or Introverted, start small. Say “Hi” to a couple of people and see how that feels. Practice your smile with others. The more you send loving energy into the environment, the more likely someone will respond favorably to you.

*Show Empathy and Listen.  Cat says, “Being listened to with empathy  is the closest thing to feeling loved.  When you’re with others, make sure you listen without judgement—put yourself in their shoes. Ask: “How would I feel if I were in their position?”  When you show up with loving intention, you will be able to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships.

*Meet your friends in person. In our hyperconnected society, many people are overwhelmed with virtual relationships, but lack deep meaningful connections on a personal level.  Cat suggests that you meet your friends on a regular basis (weekly) in person if possible (homes, coffeeshops, outdoor locations). According to Cat, we need embodied experiences (not just zoom) to sustain quality connections. Relationships are a living organism that have to be fed regularly for true bonding to take place.  

Although we’ve become more of an internal society with more people working and entertaining from home, it’s important that we balance our social and self-care needs. If you’re more Introverted or shy, you may be perfectly content staying home and not interacting too much with people. Yet, it’s important to remember that other people may need you—your companionship, attention, advice, and love. Also, you can learn valuable things from others, and you can feel that you’re not alone in this big unpredictable world. Love and be loved. That is the essence of human connection. It’s simple, but if you do it, you will achieve a great sense of belonging, peace, and joy.